we women think at times, of the emotional attachment with jerks… but how do u men, think about ur relationships with a long lost, angered or dismayed significant other?
do u think about that at all? or u are too busy looking for the next?
do re trospect & then share monsieurs!
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do re trospect & then share monsieurs!
I'll tell you in PM. It is a very hard question to answer though....
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Complicated quesiton. Can't answer you, even if want to.
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ABSOLUTELY!!! I wish I hadnt let her go but I had no choice.
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all the time:bummer:
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Never had that problem :D
Simply because I never met someone with whome I clicked :(
Well there was on girl I kinda liked. But it would have never worked out so I didnt innitiate anything :( .
And like I always say. Marry only the guy/girl if there is a click, an emotional click if you will. Then you WONT have to think about jerks or b*tches. Falling in love from the first sight or saying yes after taking a good look at a picture etc. I dont believe in that kind of stuff
So I guess InshaALlah I wont have that problem :D
But are such questions the only things you guys have on your mind? There is much more to life I believe.....
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bari khush fhemi hey, paa ji.
see u f a l l in to love
we never R i s e to it
it is meant to pull u down
it is meant to be ruthless
it is meant to make a fool out of u
it is so not worth it
for jerks.
Well there was on girl I kinda liked. But it would have never worked out so I didnt innitiate anything :( .
And like I always say. Marry only the guy/girl if there is a click, an emotional click if you will. Then you WONT have to think about jerks or b*tches. Falling in love from the first sight or saying yes after taking a good look at a picture etc. I dont believe in that kind of stuff
So I guess InshaALlah I wont have that problem :D
But are such questions the only things you guys have on your mind? There is much more to life I believe.....
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all the time :-)
ur past never leaves u alone.. u TRY however to fully pay ur attention to the present one, all the time/love/care/attention/everything, but for a quick second, comes a time, when u're alone at night, and somehow someone from past manages to sneak up in the back of ur head..
mind's a terrible thing dush :-) u KNOW u're not supposed to be thinking about ur past, only the present-one, but SOMEHOW it manages :D
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see u f a l l in to love
we never R i s e to it
it is meant to pull u down it is meant to be ruthless it is meant to make a fool out of u
it is so not worth it for jerks.
Wrong :D
How can you fall in love with some one without knowing that person?
I m sure you would find ut if he or she is a jerk or a b*tch in time.
The girl I was talking about, I liked how she was. I must admit she was pretty, but I really started liking her after knowing her for more then 7/8 months. And by then I knew she wasnt a b*tch or two faced.
Unless that person is patty bandening you all the time. :)
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ur past never leaves u alone.. u TRY however to fully pay ur attention to the present one, all the time/love/care/attention/everything, but for a quick second, comes a time, when u're alone at night, and somehow someone from past manages to sneak up in the back of ur head..
mind's a terrible thing dush :-) u KNOW u're not supposed to be thinking about ur past, only the present-one, but SOMEHOW it manages :D
Faiz, You are a real nice guy and I really like you, but I going to apologize in advance for what I am about to say. :(
Were you blind? Or was it just a physical attraction? I cant believe what I m hearing here. Why would you take a risk with something that might hunt you the rest of your life?
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there is never been a physical attraction that led INTO a relationship dutchy :-) i am not saying about a SINGLE specific relationship either.. i'm saying that regardless WHAT u do, and what u think, when u r alone for a second, u ALWAYS think about ur past.. the thought JUST crawls into ur head..
i know its not right.. cuz the present girl will EASILY say u're not being honest with me ..and u keep thinking about ur past-girlfriends... but its not in ur control :-)
some take offence, some feel sympathy, some get angry/frustrated, and very few ACKNOWLEDGE and UNDERSTAND that thats the way it is.. and feel happy that the guy is atleast being honest about it, and trying to devote his full attention/time/care and love to her, atleast whats in his control :-)
see everyone gets up VERY EASILY and says.. "dude u're stuck in ur past, we're through, i cant handle a guy who keeps thinking about his past"
now imagine, how NICE it would be when someone will say "awww dont worry, i will make u forget everything and write new memories"
what i'm trying to say here is, lets say dutchy i had 3 chapters. one along highschool, one in professional school and one after that.. the last one is on-going (presently active), now BEING me, i think its gonna be normal that when my mind is alone/inactive, it re-thinks of the highschool one, smile.. then think of that one in college.. and maybe miss the whole scenario.. (friends, senior studies,etc) and then when think of the present one.. take a pause, smile and acknowledge her presence in MY life, acknowledge that i had ups and downs, and then promise myself that THIS ONE WILL REMAIN AND I WILL BE ALL HER's UNTIL WE ARE TOGETHER.
why the 'possibilty' factor? cuz not all the times we make it ALL the way to nikah :-)
now, the blind-factor dutchy.. i dunno man .. sometimes u know the result in advance, u can SEE it before it happens, yet u still give ur shot.. u dont hold anything back .. i didnt wanted this to be on my chest that i DIDNT TRIED
sorry to get off topic, u dont really "ASSESS' or compare, u just try to re-live the past..
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if someone broke up with their ex...its cuz they didnt like them...and usually things get quiet bad towards the end....to the point where u start hating them. and if u hate someone, you wouldnt really think of them....and anytime that person comes into your head....you'd be thinking "thank god im not with that jerk/idiot/loser anymore"...you wouldnt want to think about that person....cuz thinking about them would only make you feel sick. so i think if someone has hatred for the person....they wouldnt remember them at all....especially if they truly love the person they are with at the present.
and unfortunately alot of people may go for the wrong person when in teens etc.....i think they should just see it as a childhood mistake...and move on. and the only person on their mind should be the present one....someone a person is serious about. think about what u share...ur future....forget the past. its not worth thinking over it. whats gone is gone. forget it :)
correct me if im wrong
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not entirely :-)
sometimes its not the hatred thats developed in the end.. sometimes its the family circumstances, or change of choices that made u started the relationship on the first place, sometimes its just casual dump-him/her-and-move-on...
having said that, even if u DO hated the last one, here'n there it will STILL sneak up in ur head.. sure it will be to compare/re-asses's sake.. but still it will be sneaking in :-)
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I personally dont think thats true…i think its easy to forget someone…especially if you dont see them around in your life anymore
…and guys have a bad memory anyway…it should be easier for you lot. I mean most guys cant remember anything at all…when you tell them to 
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:-))))))))
true
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chaa gayee ho :k: same here …but still 
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do re trospect & then share monsieurs!
I think it is natural to think about the past. Allah has put all these things in human. Like for example (to make it clear & simple), Allah has put the need for intercourse in humans. But does this mean that you start comitting zina with every beautiful person you see.
Same way, it is recommnded to think really careful before you plan to marry anyone. If however, you do end up with some1 stupid (male or female), then the best thing to do is have Sabr. It is for this reason that Prophet (s.a.w) said in many ahadith that do not look for anything in ur partner except their imaan/taqwa/etc ...... To this that I posted, many may laugh but when you really think about it, everything will end (beauty/wealth/status) except ur taqwa & imaan. And Prophet (s.a.w) knew very well what he is saying by Allah's permission. Just because we don't understand the wisdom behind it, that does not make it a stupid thing. But it is sad that we muslims ignore this and think beauty is more important.
PS - forgive me, I did not read all the responses and mainly read the title and Dush's first post.
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And faizzies reasoning, very honest at that is what I cannot handle. The emotional infidelity, because that is what it boils down to. That "one" whom u wish u had "kept hold of" - then you settle for annother. Saying the love was "different" or whatever is a load thereof.
I reckon guys are more emotionally unfaithful than girls.
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ofcourse nobody can handle .. thats how it is :-)
but it doesnt take away the FACT that past OCCURED, and is ASSOCIATED, and u just cant pretend that it never happend.. but u VERY WELL can promise that none of the girls's timings in your life over-lapped, and that, u are gonna be honest towards the present one..
hitchki - yara what happens is that u meet a lot of people, and u come across a few that u stick with , but not with all of them u get to get married. now once u DO get married, it wouldnt be FAIR to CHANGE THE fact that there is history, that there are chapters PRIOR to the marriage/present-day.
i aint justifying anything or trying to come out clean .. i'm just stating what people KNOW exists, yet they frown upon it :-)
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do re trospect & then share monsieurs!
I do not. I don't look back and do ifs and buts.