do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

[Dushwari]

Re: do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

interesting.

@Iconoclast

I do not. I don't look back and do ifs and buts.

[Dushwari]

Re: do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

he he,

u win girlfriend. :>

@Impulse

I personally dont think thats true…i think its easy to forget someone…especially if you dont see them around in your life anymore

…and guys have a bad memory anyway…it should be easier for you lot. I mean most guys cant remember anything at all…when you tell them to

[PhatBalongri]

Re: do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

I think its alot easier for guys to move on and it also depends on the depths of the relationship. Luckily my fiance or me ever had anything like this :D

[Dushwari]

Re: do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

good for u.

keep it up.

if you're true in saying this.

@Iconoclast

I do not. I don't look back and do ifs and buts.

[dutch_paki]

Re: do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

@faizy

there is never been a physical attraction that led INTO a relationship dutchy :-) i am not saying about a SINGLE specific relationship either.. i'm saying that regardless WHAT u do, and what u think, when u r alone for a second, u ALWAYS think about ur past.. the thought JUST crawls into ur head..

i know its not right.. cuz the present girl will EASILY say u're not being honest with me ..and u keep thinking about ur past-girlfriends... but its not in ur control :-)

some take offence, some feel sympathy, some get angry/frustrated, and very few ACKNOWLEDGE and UNDERSTAND that thats the way it is.. and feel happy that the guy is atleast being honest about it, and trying to devote his full attention/time/care and love to her, atleast whats in his control :-)

see everyone gets up VERY EASILY and says.. "dude u're stuck in ur past, we're through, i cant handle a guy who keeps thinking about his past"

now imagine, how NICE it would be when someone will say "awww dont worry, i will make u forget everything and write new memories"

what i'm trying to say here is, lets say dutchy i had 3 chapters. one along highschool, one in professional school and one after that.. the last one is on-going (presently active), now BEING me, i think its gonna be normal that when my mind is alone/inactive, it re-thinks of the highschool one, smile.. then think of that one in college.. and maybe miss the whole scenario.. (friends, senior studies,etc) and then when think of the present one.. take a pause, smile and acknowledge her presence in MY life, acknowledge that i had ups and downs, and then promise myself that THIS ONE WILL REMAIN AND I WILL BE ALL HER's UNTIL WE ARE TOGETHER.

why the 'possibilty' factor? cuz not all the times we make it ALL the way to nikah :-)

now, the blind-factor dutchy.. i dunno man .. sometimes u know the result in advance, u can SEE it before it happens, yet u still give ur shot.. u dont hold anything back .. i didnt wanted this to be on my chest that i DIDNT TRIED

sorry to get off topic, u dont really "ASSESS' or compare, u just try to re-live the past..

grfmpff oke, I ll think about it...

[dutch_paki]

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@Evilmastermind

chaa gayee ho :k: same here …but still

LOL again, great mind think alike

[Wingnut]

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@faizy

all the time :-)

ur past never leaves u alone.. u TRY however to fully pay ur attention to the present one, all the time/love/care/attention/everything, but for a quick second, comes a time, when u're alone at night, and somehow someone from past manages to sneak up in the back of ur head..

mind's a terrible thing dush :-) u KNOW u're not supposed to be thinking about ur past, only the present-one, but SOMEHOW it manages :D

I agree. I think it's exceptionally difficult to let go. Yes, one may want to forget and move on, but there will always be something which will remind you of that person...

[LuxuryItem]

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@Dushwari

we women think at times, of the emotional attachment with jerks... but how do u men, think about ur relationships with a long lost, angered or dismayed significant other? do u think about that at all? or u are too busy looking for the next?

do re trospect & then share monsieurs!

No we are Cyborgs, we don't do any such things!

[hitchki]

Re: do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

Faizy, Im not saying that its a bad thing. Infact - its very flattering if you are the ex in question :p, however, if you are v.emotionally attached to a certain individual, to know that they inturn do not invest in you 100%, rather, they have someone else in the back of their minds too..that is the pain-staking ahhhness that hurts the most. In my opinion it is emotional infidelity. There is no blame attached, but it is imo a fact.

[faizy]

Re: do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

i dunno as long as she doesnt ASK ‘so do u still remember her’ and u ACTUALLY answer this dangerous question, everything is well.. practically!

its only after the partner learns “oh great, he still remembers her” the things are analyzed a lil different, and with this NEW knowledge, the whole perspective changes..

i’m sure most of us here remember their first teacher, their favourite teacher, their first friend they made in school.. and i dont see why sticking on to it mentally and REMEMBERING it and not letting it go is different than remembering ur ex?

all those teachers/firstday/first friends were events, why cant the ex be treated the same?

[PhatBalongri]

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I think it would depend how often your mind actually goes back to your previous GFs. If its like every single time something happens you are thinking about her than thats something to worry about! And its one thing to think about your past, its another to miss an ex, thats a BIG NO-NO.

[hitchki]

Re: do male folks re assess their relationship with the previous soulmates

If the ex is in the top five people who've affected your life in a way you can never forgot. That is emotional infidelity. Also, if you are suitably close to an individuak - u can sorta tell when they get nostalgic for someone else. :)