Technically this thread belongs in life 1 but only a handful of guys visit it, so mods please let it stay here .
So my question is two fold really:
Being Pakistanis (alhumdulillah) do girls ever make the first move? I mean do they ever initate a conversation with a guy or do they wait for us (guys) to go to them and talk. Also ladies, if you don’t make the first move what kind of signals do y’all give? Are there any signs or messages that are typical in these sorts of things?
Say you’re interested in marrying a girl that you’ve never had a full, long conversation with; how would one bring up this issue with her?
For the record: these questions/issues don’t relate to me, personally. I was just wondering about such things and figured I’d ask the people of GS.
1) Being Pakistanis (alhumdulillah) do girls ever make the first move? I mean do they ever initate a conversation with a guy or do they wait for us (guys) to go to them and talk. Also ladies, if you don't make the first move what kind of signals do y'all give? Are there any signs or messages that are typical in these sorts of things?
2) Say you're interested in marrying a girl that you've never had a full, long conversation with; how would one bring up this issue with her?
For the record: these questions/issues don't relate to me, personally. I was just wondering about such things and figured I'd ask the people of GS.
Thanks in advance.
well no one can speak for ALL girls because every girl is different. However with that said..i can surely speak for myself. I have no problem initiating a conversation with a guy and if i sense that he likes me and in turn i like him ....i will wait for him to make the first move in telling me how he feels (that would be my preference). If time goes by and nothing is coming out of it then i have no problem in making the first move (ie telling him that i like him or at least hinting it). Someone has to initiate it otherwise you might end up missing out on a good thing. :)
As far as signals are concerned....i really cant answer that because there is no rule for the type of signals a girl might send. It comes natural...at least for me it does.
as far as marriage is concerned tell her directly that you are interested in her for marriage and would like to get to know her better (how u get to know her better is a personal choice based on your values and beliefs).
I hate how guys think girls who make the first move are slutty or desparate or somehow just a turnoff…
Anyway..so i was always the first one to make the move, talk to them, and admit how i felt.maybe that was a mistake..but my fiance, he was the one who pursued me..and i cudnt be happier with the outcome
If you know the body language, gilrs make the first move. If you don't know (you are a turnoff, in general, for most of them) only few might start a conversation or do something to let you know.
I'm such a coward when it comes to these things :(; anything else, alhumdullilah, I'm confident as hell. I have no issues talking with the white girls (read: blonde/brown hair and colored eyes); Its such an easy conversation with them (I guess its cause I don't look at them in the way i do this girl).
Khair, the countdown has begun. I have till April to do something.
prophet's wife, Hezrete Khadija did so, as we know the account. and did so with much modesty, as well.
Ideally, the intrigue long, complicated nature of court ship as you know it today in our times, is a bit unnecessary if long term, honest and mutually respectful relationship is in mind.
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