So im 30 and looking to get married for a good few years now spoken to many guys who all say the same thing your fat! if u loose weight we will marry you.. anywho this hasnt really bothered me much up until now when im hitting 31. My so called loved ones are constantly giving me digs about how men want slim women to marry not a fatty yes I get that! ive learnt that over the years..
For reference im 5foot tall and a uk size 14. So I went to a party weekend before last met this girl who is also looking for marriage we got talking she then introduced me to her mum who was there and said to her mum this is so and so she is also finding it hard to find someone decent she replied in punjabi “loose weight first then you may have a chance” I thought I had heard it all before but this really got to me probably due to old age!..
So my question is do bigger girls not get married are uncapable of love they say dont look and it will come to you well ive not looked for 2 years now yet nothing..
Yep. There are less chances of getting married if you're big I guess. Petite girls have to put extra effort to keep the weight off. I'm a 14-16 but because I'm short I look so frumpy. Losing a couple of dress sizes would do you good....you'll be more confident and will fit in more clothes.
So im 30 and looking to get married for a good few years now **spoken to many guys who all say the same thing your fat! if u loose weight we will marry you.. **anywho this hasnt really bothered me much up until now when im hitting 31. My so called loved ones are constantly giving me digs about how men want slim women to marry not a fatty yes I get that! ive learnt that over the years..
How many "average" girls will marry a fat, black guy? perhaps very few.
In ideal world, people should focus on inner attributes and not physical but unfortunately world is not ideal by any stretch of imagination.
Do not get me wrong, I am not saying that overweight girls/guys do not get married but its just that pool of people willing to get into relationship with them is much smaller. Most of the time such person has to 'make up' for this in some other aspect (such as providing visa to spouse, belong to rich family, being a public figure etc etc).
On the face of it, I might sound like a person with sick mentality but sorry there is no sincere politically correct answer to this question.
Decent 6 Chora you have summed it up perfectly & honest to!
Hareem I agree i look and feel like a frump more like an umpa lumpa.. So my only solution which i know already is to lose weight and not only feel great but get a bloke to!
to be brutally honest, if your not happy with yooursef loose the weight..you are not huge so you don't have a long way to go.
Most men do prefer slimmer girls,when they are looking for a rishta. If it's a love marriage then obviously you both accept each other however. The reality is, the rishta market is competitive and weight does play a part.
In the UK a lot of fat girls get married easily and some dont… I think its just pot luck really.
You think skinny people have it any easier?
Me and my brother were tunred down a long time ago becuase we were both thin and looked sickly pale, plus some villainous auntie spread rumours our fammily had a history of TB and all sorts of other nonsense…
Hell even all these years later my wife jokes that I was never fed enough and need fattening up.
I also have a very large cousin and she found herself an equally fat burger fammily type husband… they actually make a great couple and have a fine sense of humour as well as three kids.
So what if your fat or thin, tall or short just be yourself and dont let the world put you down so much.
I don't know why you should lose weight? If you're happy and function normally (as in not die when you're walking up the stairs) then whats the problem?
I think people should stay the way they are and stop telling others to change themselves if you're happy with it stick with it!
Well what I think is its all about kismat, no matter how much fat or thin you are. You will get married when you are destined & to whom you are destined with ..... simple..... but that does not mean you should stop trying, do your best to loose weight & leave the rest on ALLAH.
I have seen so many fat girls getting married while dubli patleezz are still waiting.
Mota, patla, kaala , gora, neela, peela has nothing to do with it , its all about kismat as far as marriage is concerned.
they say dont look and it will come to you well ive not looked for 2 years now yet nothing..
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Im sorry you are going through this..but why not lose weight for your own self? Eating healthy wont hurt..its a great hobby..