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Re: Do desis

@Deeba1234

^That’s ur opinion but most ppl would say that those desi mums who threaten suicide or stop eating cos their sons won’t go to medical school or daughters won’t marry their cousin from ‘back home’ **aren’t **mentally strong..

A lot of desis tend to grow up with a lot of emphasis on approval and support from the family and community network, meaning even as adults they aren’t as used to making solo decisions without needing or asking for approval from parents or elders.. One ex. is the many grown-up guys who say they will always take their mothers’ side over their wives’ regardless of whether she’s right or wrong or that they feel unable to ever move away from the parents’ home or the fact that so many teachers and college lecturers report that young female desi students often speak up less and/or have less confidence than their white classmates. When u live in a ‘hierarchy’ where it’s considered bad manners to ever challenge an elder or parent or go against the community (whatever the reason) of course that is going to affect the people growing up within it and their attitudes..

The whole idea of being subservient and constantly worrying ‘what will so and so think’ isn’t exactly healthy, leads to a hell of a lot of resentment and a lot of crazy behaviour (esp regarding women who have a tougher time within the ‘framework’). In the UK desi women have far higher levels of depression, suicide and self-harm than white women, does that sound mentally strong to you??

They don’t literally threaten suicide, etc. Your replies have lot of generalizations and assumptions.