do all boys think this way

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SU:hugz: Hope you are well

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Sadly Suhaina has so many social 'issues' to deal with. Cousin, herself and her brother.

These days two incomes are better than one unless one income can really take care of all the problems which is not so common.

And no, not all boys think like that.

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I used to be very liberal about this. i thought that it did not matter whether you had a working wife or not. but after some observations i have reached the conclusion that a woman should not work, atleast in the days when her kids are not of school going age. there are several other factors too. if i were to come back from office, i want a wife who is there standing, refreshed and all. if she has come from the office too and is tired, i think your married life goes down the drain.
besides i have seen that women who are earning dont have much respect for their husbands either.
my personal belief is that relationships do not work based on equality. one partner always have to give in. and with a working woman that is usually not possible.

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so whats the problem here? Get him a working wife. But make sure there is someone back at home to take care of other chores too. I do not know if you or your mother are ready to do that all urself.

Secondly if he brings a working wife, the other family memebers at home too should be in agreement with that. Coz later your lil bro will be granted the rest hrs to enjoy after office and poor wife may start working at home too. Again coz she will be told thats her first responsibilty i.e. take care of house.

And one more thing, your lil bro should learn cooking, washing, dusting etc all. Coz when working wife is busy in some late meetings or when Audit is going on in office and she has to stay late hrs at work, he should be able to make everything ready for her before she gets home.

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:tubelight:

and THATS the reason for double standards right there.

now why didnt this ever occur to me before :omg:

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^ you are evil, woman. :hehe:

PS: “boys” :omg:

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Yes...THATS WHY men want working wives but their moms want stay at home bahus. :D

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I am not against a working wife. If wife is smart enough that she can help her husband and her family financially, I consider it as something really brave from her. But the prob comes when husband is not co-operative and not sensitive (majority cases). When he and his wife both work 10hrs a day, still at home he expects frm her to do the maximum chores i.e. washing clothes, cooking, keeping house organized and clean, entertaining the friends n relatives, raising the kids, producing the kids. There are a lot more duties she already have on her shoulders. Things that my husband cannot give time to, like to his own family n close friends, i can do that on his behalf if i have some free time coz I do not work. Raising kids is a big issue in present days. If my hubby works and I am at home, at least I will make sure about my kids studies, their school activities, about their company they are sitting with. I can teach them at home.

Life is not just earning a lot of money and bring all luxuries to home. Life is too busy already and full of various kinds of worries, tensions and depression. At least I would like to know a place for myself where I can rest n forget about everything for sometime after I am too tired of facing the world the whole day. Some place that I know as soon as I reach my half worries and tiredness will wash away. From husband's point of view may be it can be a clean tidy house, fresh cooked meal, and a beautiful smile from his wife as soon as he steps in to home. I would like to be a peace for his soul. If he is upset and cranky coz he had arguments with someone at work, at least I am cool and ready to take his temper. But If I too had a bad day at office , then we will only break dishes on each others heads.

Again I am not against working women. I myself am working at the moment and I can very happily continue with doing job IF my husband assures me his full support and co-operation in this regard.
I can even agree on that too that I work until we clear some debts or make some good savings, n then I quit and look after the home and he continues working.

Well all depends on co-operation from both parties.

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no he is a little one younger to my elder bro but he is elder then me and he is in paksitan

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i m not really askinga question was just thiking so i posted
i mean i know no harm in working for females but somehow i m not saying islamically or socially but saying genrally usually its a mans responsibility to earn money and women responsibility is to make house to home raise kids etc…male is potrait to b a protector..qudrat ne kuch aisa hi nizaam banaya hai

if women is not working she has alot work to do at home like cooking,clenaing,raise kids etc but if man is sitting at home whta will he do he canonly wtch tv and newspaper..i saw my dad sunday is realy hard for him…he said office jane se time tu guzarta hay

my point is if male wana b nikkama and want to eat his wife kamai then its weird or want her to help him.he should earn enough or try to work hard to earn enough to make life good and fullfill need of his fmaily or his goals for money.

even i said same to my bro dont find short cuts to make good money..khud mehnat karoo :hoonh: :stuck_out_tongue:

i know soeme guys who force their wife to work even
i know girls who dont wana work but her husbands ask them do work to help them financialy.

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I want a wife who should stay at home and do whatever she wants to do, she can go out with her friends, watch tv, read magazine, shopping, come on gs etc etc i won't have any problem with it....in other words i just want her to enjoy her life to the max...

Last thing i want is her working !.....But if she insist & if working is going to make her happier then surely i wont object because at the end of the day she has a right to decide what she wants to do.....

This is my personal preference and apart from my wife i don't see why anyone else should have a problem with this.....

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There is only one thing that all women want:

choice.

WO JO BHI KEHTA HY ME CHUPKE SE BAAT MANLETI HUN
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Dude trust me, your wife getting advice on life1 is the last thing you want :hehe:

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and about me i m working and i,ll work and i told him he said do what ever u like ...u wana sit infront of tv at home or wana sit infront of computer at office ..choice is yours

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popcorn

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So are you married ? :hypo:

IF no how do I contact you ? :bobo:

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This random brain-screwing made me wonder, if my wife is not earning and is dependent on my earning, what happens if I die?

One should certainly leave it to her choice whether she wants to stay home or to work - and the work part doesn't mean she can take up a *fulfilling career *which shoots the married life in the bollocks. A woman needs to realize and acknowledge her responsibility towards the household and the family. But a man certainly should not keep her from working unless he is leaving her quite a fortune.

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I think there is much more than that.

Women want it ALL. And nothing less will ever make them happy.

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Jaanwar you raise a very good point here. The thing is planning and making the right choices. I had a very successful career, was earning into the 6 figures which is a salary that is out of reach of many men. Yet, both myself and my hubby wanted a "stay home mom" for our kids. To us personally, its a very important thing to give to your children.

If God forbid something happened to my hubby, I know for sure that I can make a nice living for our children. Without needing to rely on re-marriage or other family members to support me. Sure, it will take time and I'll not earn like I did when I was single and able to spend 80 to 90 hours a week on my job....but surely I will be able to provide.

In the meantime, I've said it before and I'll say it again. A stay-home mom works around the clock - no breaks, no days off - with no pay. To replace all a stay home mother does would take a king;s ransome. Those who think we sit around eating bonbons all day are seriously misguided. Its a far more difficult (and also a far more rewarding) "job" than any I could imagine. And the best warning/advice I could ever give to a man is never to take for granted all that a wife and mother does for your family. Its just not replace-able.

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Absolutely right.
We don't eat bonbons.

It's godiva and lindt chocolate now. :)