So the discussion about divorced people continues.
On one hand it is argued that virgins are preferred and on the other hand they are not really preferred.
Some points to ponder from TLK post(s) above.
1- The hadith as I said earlier does appear an incidence where it is merely a question, but not admonition to marry a divorced/widow.
2- Other fiqah rules based on hadiths have something to back up such as the Prophet SAW himself also doing Wudoo, lifting his clothes above ankle etc.
3- The Prophet SAW, after Khadija RA again married to second wife who was NOT virgin. And this was AFTER Jibraeel AS was revealed and Islam had begun. (~610H)
[They are 13 wives as follow with period of marriage shown between brackets.
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[li]Khadijah bint Khuwaylid (595–619)[/li][li]Sawda bint Zamʿa (619–632)[/li][li]Aisha bint Abi Bakr (619–632)[/li][li]Hafsa bint Umar (624–632)[/li][li]Zaynab bint Khuzayma (625–627)[/li][li]Hind bint Abi Umayya (629–632)[/li][li]Zaynab bint Jahsh (627–632)[/li][li]Juwayriya bint al-Harith (628–632)[/li][li]Ramlah bint Abi Sufyan (628–632)[/li][li]Rayhana bint Zayd (629–631)[/li][li]Safiyya bint Huyayy (629–632)[/li][li]Maymuna bint al-Harith (630–632)[/li][li]Maria al-Qibtiyya (630–632)[/li][/ol]
He SAW, married Sawda RA after Islam. (~610)
4- But then again, the Prophet SAW married to a virgin Aisha RA as his third wife, around the same time.
5- Now, if the Prophet SAW was really a proponent of divorced/widowed people marrying divorced/widowed/matron people then why did He SAW marry to Aisha RA when HE SAW was himself widowed??
6- There is a big risk of making the Prophet SAW as someone Nauzubillah not following his own advice if he indeed wanted virgins to be preferred.
7- And then the statement “Why did you not marry a young girl who would have fondled with you?” does not appear to be a generalized statement applicable to all, only applicable to the particular Sahabi who was actually a young person born probably around 607AD, about 15 years before Hijrat.
8- Does this mean, divorced or widowed don’t know how to fondle or sport? Absolutely not, and hence another proof that this Hadith should nt be taken as a universal advice to men to prefer virgins to marry.
9- There is Quranic and Hadith based proof that pious/religious women are to be preferred over them being wealthy or good looking. (If the choices are otherwise equal)
10- Nowhere in Quran it says marry virgins as much as possible or prefer them as your wives. (If I am wrong, then please provide proof)
11- Bigger risk of making it a rule is that men, if given equal choices will prefer virgins and will not marry divorced or widowed women thinking they are following what the Prophet SAW wanted them to to.
12- Somewhere in Ibn e Maja it is allegedly said to marry virgins since they are sweeter etc. ? But This needs to be checked in detail.
Well, the fiqahi people and Aalims are very respected and it just does not seem right or justified to prefer virgins over matrons just because latter were married before especially the evidence is overwhelmingly against it from the life of the Prophet SAW himself.
13- The prophet SAW had Usman RA Marry his own divorced daughter Ruqayyah the first time and then second divorced daughter Umm Kulsoom again to Usman RA after Ruqayyah RA probably died in 624AD. Both of His SAW daughters RAA, were divorced and remarried is the point here.
Perhaps more reasons for saying virgins are preferred in Islam needed.
Mufti diwana! 