fitoor
October 12, 2017, 10:07am
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Re: Divorced men ..
My husband and I are both divorcees and I must say our parents didn’t once hold our divorces against us. I think they had one conversation about the reasons behind the divorce when they first met (mainly the mothers to lighten their hearts more than anything) and that was it. Even our families/friends embraced our marriage as if it was our first.
To be honest when I got divorced I was terrified of having that ‘label’ and ‘stigma’ put on me, but I received a lot of support from friends and family alike. I was very vocal about my divorce and the reasons behind it, always honest about what happened, about how I tried to make it work for so long and what my mistakes were throughout. If anyone ever gave me any nonsense I’d discuss rather than argue, and 9/10 times they’d apologise.
I think that’s where a lot of women go wrong. They allow themselves to be talked about in a bad light, they don’t talk about what happened so a lot of bad is said about them which makes the process of moving on harder.
I wonder if when it’s two divorcees it’s an easier process?
I’ve never seen or heard desi people say something negative directly to a divorcee, it’s always behind her back so how would you know to whom you need to direct your discussion to because they’re always “sweetoo sweetoo” in front of her face.