It's not an easy decision and none of us have the right to call someone a failure, immature or selfish just because they got a divorce. The only ones who know what truly happened are the two ppl involved, none of us. There's a reason divorce IS allowed, it should not be taken lightly by any means but sometimes enough is enough.
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The basic reasoning of divorce is known to everyone in each time, from cheating to domestic abuse but most of the divorces these days are not based on it. They call it right, freedom and open-mind ness. I call it living in a fantasy world where they are nothing but immature brats who basically did not deserve anyone to begin with.
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yeah i agree with Sara..none in real mind ,just gets up and decides that they want a divorce..it a very tough descion..it effects everything in ones life..not to forget the time invested in a marriage..the whole emotional aspect of it all.It,s not easy to break off and say goodbye. Only the person or the persons suffering really know the whole ordeal.
I don't think that was too possible until recently in history. That and the whole modern philosophy of women's lib. And the modern philosophy of individuality. I think most societies in the past were based more on a communal social philosophy. Like you work for the betterment of your community. Now, no one gives a flying rat's behind for the community. Its all about making yourself happy. Which leads people to opt for divorce before they even try to make those saccrifices necessary to make marriage work.
But bottom line, I think a majority of divorces are based on women not being happy with their marriage, and opting to leave it. I don't blame them. Who wants to be married to a guy who doesn't respect you or doesn't care about you anymore or cheats on you, or blows your money, etc? I guess the onus is on the husbands now to be better people.
interesting to see how ur just blaming the guys. i think girls are equally to blame since alot of times its their faults too.....especially them type of girls who think and behave like they are gods gift to the world.
just watched “kabhi Alvida Na kehna” and suprise to say found the story line quite realistic to what’s going wrong in desi marriages now a days. well for a % i guess. It all boils down to having a good communication and understanding of each other. Like they showed how Shahruk’s character feels his wife (preity zinta) is soo busy with her work that she hardly has time for her husband or child…(you’ll get to hear the opposite now a days a lot OFCOURSE there’s always exceptions that our desi wives feel neglected by their husbands not giving them enuf time of day) then there was rani mukharji and a. bachan (my he’s a walking talking duplicate copy of his dad …he was a little out there for her …partying type and she wasn’t and then the real reason why she married him. in both cases things started falling apart when one feels the other doesn’t have/give enuff time to the other or shows no interest/care in them. and they become fed up with the unhappy marriage/situation constantly lurking them. i liked how they showed both sides of the story like if priety didn’t work who would pay for bills since sharuk broke his legs and rani was too busy keeping the place all sparkly that she forgot what a sparkly handsome husband she was blessed with.
p.s can someone explain to me what shahruk’s mom was doing at rani’s wedding in the opening of the movie i didn’t get that part
…he was a little out there for her …partying type and she wasn’t and then the real reason why she married him. in both cases things started falling apart when one feels the other doesn’t have/give enuff time to the other or shows no interest/care in them. and they become fed up with the unhappy marriage/situation constantly lurking them. i liked how they showed both sides of the story like if priety didn’t work who would pay for bills since sharuk broke his legs 
and rani was too busy keeping the place all sparkly that she forgot what a sparkly handsome husband 
she was blessed with.
i didn’t get that part