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my phone has died at the mo and my number is one it 
Ill send it later shaiter if thats ok
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^oh she was talking to you 
Sorry daisy, please disregard the PM I just sent you
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it is fun to see Nia go off on all sorts of tangents in a woman/man is evil thread
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OMG, i think u need to pay that dude a visit in Pak, kick his arse. U need to ask him for a divorce, how much huq mehr did u put in ur nikah contract. Get that from him + sue him for emotional reason and for not to being able to provide u for so many yrs There must be some sort of laws in Pak against a hubby for leaving his wife like that just coz his ****ing ass was too lazy to work (i know there arent any laws like that :( but i wish there was). At times like this, i wish i was a lawyer or a cop and would just shoot the dude and make it look like an accident.
Does his second wife knows about u? If she doesn't, u better tell her. How did u even put up with this whole thing gal and how come u guys never talked. This is just so messed up. I hope he dies from a painful death
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According to US law you are not married. So no worries there. Are you by chance a US citizen? Then there is legal recourse you can take to make sure you are divorced. Secondly I would personally suggest you forget about the low life and ask your parents or you yourself find another husband. Forget this idiot.
In this case I personally don't care what religious doctrine says. Allah would understand and that is all you need to worry about. You are single in my eyes so go get yourself a nice spa resort trip and find a good man to marry.
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I’m actually a UK citizen, not US. But both probably the same in regards to any help.
i think everyone is right he does actually need a really good kicking and as the saying goes what goes round comes round. He’ll get his just deserts someday.
About the Khula’a i have been told it will take about 6 months but he can make demands eg i pay him to divorce me. Over my dead body,. He will not get any of my money.
Music you’re right i should sue him for emotional damage. By the way the reason we didn’t speak was that he was actually having an affair- well thats what he told me. Really i can’t see that because he was really that ugly.
And lollypop, yes thats your opinion. At what point did i mention or blame my parents. Really what happened, happened. It was No ones fault but his. He decided to walk, why am i going to blame by parents. 
Another thing pindoos are pindoos in my opnion. What i class as a pindoo, is someone who has a one track mind. Can not listen to anyone elses opnion apart from theirs and what they say is correct. So sorry if you take offence. But when i speak about pindoos, its not in the was you think i.e. a person who lives in a pind.
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Aslam O Alaikum Pak10
I agree with other pplz here i think its better if
you ask some Imaams about this they 'ill know better
about this situation.
I hope for you that you get info. soon.
Allah Hafiz.
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Thank you for your kind words Nilu
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Pak, what you mentioned and we heard is just your part of the story ... but BELIEVING everything you said is true, there is no reason to seek opinions from the forum. It's simple, you have a life and you should live by seeking Khula .. YES, per Islamic Laws, if the husband has no contact with you for 2 years your nikkah is nullified and Khula should be easy .. Also, you should check your nikkah nama, what conditions did it persist pertain to second marriage and all other conditions. Good Luck !
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Basit- It is good to ask what people think. You should always assume that other people are more knowledgeable than yourself. So therefore that was my reason for bringing up this topic. Not that i think i need to explain myself.
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pak10. i take offense to the term paindu. cuz i am one. best of luck.
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Lolly, are you a woman hating stinky smelly ugly man/woman who thinks not using lotais the end of the world, but raping a woman is oaky coz she deserved it? 
I don think so
IMO, paindoo doesnt have to be someone who lives in the pind, whos just moved to the US, drives cabs or whatever, but someone who has the most jaahil, backwards thinking.. Theres plenty of paray-likhay jahils in Pak and abroad. Speaking urdu, eating certain foods, wearing certain things doesnt make one paindu, i think 
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lolly - you are not reading and taking in the statement sara and i have written about paindus. So what you are from a pind, why do you have a chip on your shoulder about it. 
Why do you think there is something wrong with being a paindu?
If you read what we have written, you may not take such offence
So i am sorry you have taken offence, but it was not meant in that context. Try to lighten up, you may just have some fun.
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sara, what r u talking about? whose raping what. u making up definition of words now. and who made you an expert of languages… if i may ask. u know staying in pak for a week doesnt make you a urdu-daan.
pak10, im lightened up. ur the one hating paindus…not me. thanks for introducing me to this smile.
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oye so much violence!
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hey hun...i've heard of a girl who was in a similar position to u who applied to the Pakistani courts to have the divorce granted islamically...u've been apart for more than 2 years without any contact so it shouldn't be a problem gatting the courts to grant u the divorce. best of luck now and in the future.
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Hain? 
I was just giving my definition of what a paindu is and isn’t. I guess we all have different definitions of it, mine just happens to be someone with the sickest, dirtiest lowest ghatya thinking, rather than where htey lived/were raised and language they speak adn food htey eat… I’m confuzzled, since when did i consider myself expert of languages? I really dont get wht u been saying.. Btw, its been 16 weeks, 57 weeks if u count yearly visits since the age of 5 :p, and vy are you punching me? 
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^ AAp ki good looks nai uss ko ba-maut hai mara.
Paggal hai bechara.
O choroo parray yaar, there's no point in being objkective with every1.