Can one, through a private background investigation, find out the court proceedings and contents of discussion during divorce done thru a court in the US?
Should people be doing that more and more when marrying their girls off to guys who have been divorced?
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Use the desi auntie news network.
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But on a serious note, if someone did that to me, I would be the one to say no. A divorce is a private and humiliating matter. If you need to pry into his private life because you can't believe what he is saying or think he's putting on an act, then do the both of yourselves a favor and move on.
You don't have to use an agency, it's public record. You need to know name and jurisdiction though.
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I find that odd if I ever had to go to those lengths. Rishtas and finding someone would become to much of a business venture. Research is one thing so you can be confident but if its that much of a doubt where you need to investigate anything in that sense would be just weird and unnatural in my opinion.
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Definitely. Divorced guys are trouble. Divorced women are usually the victims though.
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If you need to go to those lengths to trust a potential isn't there something wrong there?
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Can one, through a private background investigation, find out the court proceedings and contents of discussion during divorce done thru a court in the US?
As already mentioned by X2, court papers are generally a matter of public record. No need to go through an investigator for that.
Should people be doing that more and more when marrying their girls off to guys who have been divorced?
No. For the most part it's a waste of time/effort.
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Found this online - How to View Divorce Records for Free | eHow
I don’t think there’s any harm in seeking out divorce records. Heck, we look for recommendations and reports on beauty salons for crying out loud! A lot of people get duped because a rishta “seemed” nice. You can’t really trust someone 100% after meeting them just 3-4 times.
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^True.. no need to marry after just 3-4 meetings tho.. esp if you're not sure..
Don't know why there's such a taboo when it comes to just becoming friends with the person you're going to be spend the rest of your life with.. If you can chat to guys and girls in class or at work why not your future husband or wife?
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Definitely. Divorced guys are trouble. Divorced women are usually the victims though.
that.....and to add
all mudslinging and accusations/counter accusations, lawyers' BS and all that jazz.......
and divorce case, there is more likelihood than not of the 'abuse' card being played by the women's lawyer.....
so, if you are to trust court record......... you are likely to find 'abusive' man :D
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The jurisdiction it happened in is where you start
You can easily get copies of the transcripts from the courthouse
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Can one, through a private background investigation, find out the court proceedings and contents of discussion during divorce done thru a court in the US?
Should people be doing that more and more when marrying their girls off to guys who have been divorced?
One thing to note though PCG is that even if you get these records...it will prove nor deny anything.
People are animals around this time in their lives...they don't think, act or react clearly and you cannot blame them.
And often, what you see on paper is not the truth either.
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What would you get out of seeing divorce records? The court system is very methodical and to the point. When you file a divorce claim you don't need to go to lengths as to WHY you are filing for divorce. All the US states allow for a no fault divorce so trying to prove your spouse was mean is irrelevant in court. The court doesn't care if your in-laws weren't nice to you or your husband was too controlling. Until and unless you filed restraining orders against your spouse and made a claim for domestic violence, a court document will not tell you what led to the breakdown of a marriage. Also, most Pakistanis that do end up getting divorced do so within a year of the marriage so issues like alimony and child support never come up in court.
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^ The abuse bit is important. If there were claims of physical abuse, police reports, that sort of thing, I think it's important to note. A woman truly abused and wanting to get rid of the guy will tell the judge "he abused me", and those details, I'd think, WOULD be in the court system's records since they notate everything that is said in the proceedings.
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^ Often times these marriages end not because of physical abuse but due to mental incompatibility and emotional abuse from the spouse and that is not mentioned in the formal court proceedings. Yes there are cases where there has been physical abuse and restraining orders filed but most Pakistani divorces in the US honestly are not a result of physical abuse.
Also, just because a girl claims she was 'abused' doesn't mean she was. You'd be shocked to see how manipulative some girls can be in these circumstances. Once I dealt with someone who kept filing random restraining orders against the guy even though the guy was out of state for a couple of months. She was doing that so she can get to keep her marriage based green card despite the marriage breaking down. Divorces are complicated and I doubt some court documents can give you an insight as to what exactly happened.
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^ The abuse bit is important. If there were claims of physical abuse, police reports, that sort of thing, I think it's important to note. A woman truly abused and wanting to get rid of the guy will tell the judge "he abused me", and those details, I'd think, WOULD be in the court system's records since they notate everything that is said in the proceedings.
Not necessarily. I had volumes of documents that was kept between the lawyers and out of court. Since there was a child involved, the last thing I wanted was something recorded so that when said child grows up and discover's the power of google, the child just doesn't find this information before the child is mature enough and adult enough to handle it.
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I have known personally desi women who have done this during divorce:
Hurt themselves and then call the police and say that the husband hit her. Got the husband arrested and then got a restraining order so that the husband could not come close to the house. She then proceeded to sell all the furniture and belongings, emptied the bank accounts while the husband sat in jail.
Pretend to makeup with husband and call them over to the house, have consensual [email protected] then afterwards call the police and have husband arrested for spousal rape.