Re: disturbed coz of husband’s behaviour
post 101, oh i wanted the 100 spot for this go nowhere thread 
Re: disturbed coz of husband’s behaviour
i am afraid so…Sana in tamam nadir mashwaron par amal karnay k baad hee aye’n gi.
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parents have to be punished to not see the evils while selecting their Son-in-law... they should not go for the 1st available option nor does they look into the wealth of the boy side, they should consider the moral attitude of the family as the first most option... if that is not their top priority, then let me say that they deserve the treatment by marrying their daughter to a scum bag...
I am sure, people will blame the boy for his rough attitude ( and he should be blamed) but what about the parents of the girl, did they performed their due-diligence before handing our their daughter to them??? i guess that is not the case here...
So what about the parents who raise a son like that?
Granted the girls parents had a responsibility as well but like RV said you don't know if it was the first option or if they just didnt' get that gut feeling and what not....
Why not question the root of the problem, which is, how does a man end up like that to begin with? Why do parents raise such loser men?
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So what about the parents who raise a son like that?
Granted the girls parents had a responsibility as well but like RV said you don't know if it was the first option or if they just didnt' get that gut feeling and what not....
Why not question the root of the problem, which is, how does a man end up like that to begin with? Why do parents raise such loser men?
There is nothing you can do to fix the parents who raise such abnormal persons.... but as a parent of girl, least you can do is to check out the behavior of the family and the guy, for me family behavior is more important then the behavior of the would-be-groom as, if the family is decent then chances of having successful marriage increases and vice verse,
In this case, if girls side have any guts or they think they have not done anything wrong, then instead of threatening of cutting all ties with OP, they should have supported her by having a family meeting with the Guy and his parents, asking them the reasons.... this approach would have sent right messages and would have contained the any future problem, but that is not the attitude...
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well....meri story ab kuch yun hay...i told my mamoo..so he called him at his office...he also brought me there...he told the whole situation to my uncle....he said'mamoo mai manta hun k mai gusay mi bht kuch keh dyta hun iskay liy im sorry bt zarori to nai k mai har dafa isko mama k pas lay kar jaon....any how my mamoo listend him dan he asked from me...i told
Re: disturbed coz of husband's behaviour
well....meri story ab kuch yun hay...i told my mamoo..so he called him at his office...he also brought me there...he told the whole situation to my uncle....he said'mamoo mai manta hun k mai gusay mi bht kuch keh dyta hun iskay liy im sorry bt zarori to nai k mai har dafa isko mama k pas lay kar jaon....any how my mamoo listend him dan he asked from me...i told
^Okay....while I agree that some of your husband's behavior is plain idiotic.....................the possibility of YOU spending too much time with your family has already been brought up.
Your husband and nobody from your in-laws can stop you from visiting your parents....but you do need to maintain a balance. It should not get in the way of you fulfilling your responsibilities in your marriage.
Also, it can get rather annoying for your husband to drop you off all the time at your parents' home. If it's only 15 minutes away.....then why don't you see if you can go there by yourself. Again, there needs to be moderation in how you spend your time. He needs to control his temper.....if the verbal/emotional abuse persists...despite trying various strategis to make the marriage work....then you can consider a separation.
And I don't know why I'm posting this in English.....cuz i have a feeling it's just gonna go "whoosh"...and I don't have the energy to type it in Urdu. Also, I would like to include the rolling eyes smilie and it's a shame that my emoticons are not showing up.
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He doesn't seem like a reasonable person. I am sorry you are having a hard time. I only read the english version - thanks Sara.
I can only say that you could try to win his bruised trust - but sometimes people don't change. You can try for the world but they won't ever understand. Its a shame. I hope you are not pregnant. If hes going out at all hours of the day/night, etc and denying you parental vists - I would try to talk it out with calmly if this fails then maybe you do need to leave a bad situation.
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Khula lay low. warna saree zindagi rotay dhotay hee guzray gee woh nahi sudharnay wala.
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sory..i wrote only haalf...actually my mamoo told me that ur strong girl and u should spend ur whole life with him...its ur naseeb dat u get this type of guy...everything is depend on luck...for example agr kal ko divorce lay lo..ar pirse hum tumhari shadi karein wo b acha na ho to?
its ur luck...and u shuld give him lots of respect,us sy yh hoga k wo sochay ga is bandi ny mujhe itni izzat day di hay mai kasay is sy buray tareekay se bat karon....
well my mamoo advised him alot./..so now its almost 1 week he seems better..balkay behaving with more love...he droped me twice at my mom home...
its by car 15 mint way...
my mamoo told him ak larki apna sb chor kar shadi karti hay...to larkay ko chahii usko bht respect day...kabhi tum uski bat man lia karo kabhi wo tumhari...ar ak dosray ki bat mannay se koi chota bara nai ho jata.....
i love my mamooo alot........mai dua karti hun k ab mujhe kabhi koi dukh na phunchay ar mai b normally apni life spend karon...with love and care and ofcourse with childern...
Re: disturbed coz of husband's behaviour
sory..i wrote only haalf...actually my mamoo told me that ur strong girl and u should spend ur whole life with him...its ur naseeb dat u get this type of guy...everything is depend on luck...for example agr kal ko divorce lay lo..ar pirse hum tumhari shadi karein wo b acha na ho to? its ur luck...and u shuld give him lots of respect,us sy yh hoga k wo sochay ga is bandi ny mujhe itni izzat day di hay mai kasay is sy buray tareekay se bat karon.... well my mamoo advised him alot./..so now its almost 1 week he seems better..balkay behaving with more love...he droped me twice at my mom home... its by car 15 mint way... my mamoo told him ak larki apna sb chor kar shadi karti hay...to larkay ko chahii usko bht respect day...kabhi tum uski bat man lia karo kabhi wo tumhari...ar ak dosray ki bat mannay se koi chota bara nai ho jata..... i love my mamooo alot........mai dua karti hun k ab mujhe kabhi koi dukh na phunchay ar mai b normally apni life spend karon...with love and care and ofcourse with childern...
Ameen,
you should write a book "From Khula to Living Happily Every After in 7 days"
Re: disturbed coz of husband’s behaviour
Re: disturbed coz of husband’s behaviour
Are you for real? 
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indeed.
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at all the ‘warriors’ 