Re: disturbed coz of husband’s behaviour
So true! Domestic abuse isn’t just confined to Asian/Middle-Eastern societies. It’s widespread in the West too! Somehow abuse cases in the former societies have gained more popularity because they can be easily associated with the the evil evil religion that Islam is and why the heck would the West miss out on any golden chance of Obliterating Islam.
Not completely associated with the OP’s issue but I met up with one of my high school friends a couple of days ago. Now this friend was in a relationship with an A**hole but she has been putting up with this loser for years now. He beats her up, takes her money, does drugs and has cheated on her a couple of times. Whenever she leaves him, he comes back begging her and she takes him back. She’s been with this guy (on and off) for 7 years now.
Anyway, so she told me how he is getting better and actually wants to marry her and settle down and how he’s changed blah blah blah but that she’s hesitant about it because she wants to have a baby with him and find out if he’s going to be a good father or not before she marries him!!!
I had to stop myself from chocking on my food when I heard this. And this isn’t an average bottlehead blonde I’m talking about. She’s one of the smartest people I know, a Berkeley graduate with an amazing job now yet somehow cannot get herself to kick this jerk out of her life and is not ready to listen to anyone else because she’s so much in love with him. She’s ready to marry him but doesn’t trust him to be a good father. That’s how bad some situations can get!
I just don’t get it. Abuse is abuse ! some people just can’t change. This one-sided love crap thing never works. Whether it’s before or after marriage, one should know when there’s just no hope for the other person and step out of it.
I also hate how some people thing “a baby will change the person”. NO HE/SHE WILL NOT CHANGE! you will just end up in a bigger mess than you were before and will be responsible destroying a third person’s life as well.