Distressed friend, need help.

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Re: Distressed friend, need help.

@R.A.W

With prayers, planning, and efforts in the right direction it is possible: “Saanp bhi mar jaye aur lat’hi bhi na tutey”

There definitely is a pulsating urge within everyone of us to immediately get the rapist reported and punished to death (Yes it should be done), but if done with *a bit of planning *it would save the future of a young girl who lives in an age/society where even young widows and young divorced girls find it difficult to get a decent rishta, what to talk of a girl who is termed as “abused/raped”.

Yes, most of the men here would easily write on GS (with no tensions) that they have no problem in marrying an abused/physically mistreated girl, when discussed on GS, but in practical life things doesn’t happen so easily (otherwise we would never hear tragic stories everyday on TV), where many ‘practical’ factors (parents,..etc.) come into play, very few remain firm in this honorable decision of marrying such cases, as you would observe in daily life, the rest have different priorities.

I think you fail to give enough credit to most of the men on GS. I think majority of guys here are sensible, civilized guys, who will not punish someone for being a victim. Just because they are not volunteering info on things that their loved ones or they themselves may have endured does not mean that is a monolithic group of hypocrites who will preach one thing and yet have a different playbook for themselves.

btw do you have any idea how rampant mistreatment of women is in Pakistan. why dont you do a poll on this site and just ask 3 simple questions

1- have you yourself been molested (groped, pinched, rubbed..whatever in shops, buses, crowds in Pakistan)
2- of the ladies that you know how many have faced the same- few, some, most
3- how many times have you faced something improper- few, some, most

years ago..sadly on chat on irc and not on a forum, we had asked the same question, the answers there were shocking to all of us. and if we keep on brushing it under the rug, we are simply making the ghatiya kuttay out there bolder