Distressed friend, need help.

Shak · February 13, 2012, 5:41pm

Re: Distressed friend, need help.

All I’m reading by RAW is that, it was the girl’s fault. So she should just shut up, while that…filthy vermin cockroach…gets to roam free and who knows, will go and do this to someone else! People with views like that need to die alone.

Abuse is not something that gets buried away. And in Pakistan unfortunately it’s too common for it to be brushed under the carpet. The best solution would be for her to get some kind of help, and not suppress it. It will change her. If she is worried about a potential rishta being affected by this knowledge, if this trauma gets ignored by her, then it will pop up somehow one way or another and will affect her future relationships even worse. While getting proper psychological help is a dream in Pakistan, what you can do as a friend is to be with her and encourage her to talk. And continue reminding her that it was not her fault that that scum did that to her. If she has another confidant, then she can talk to him/her as well, or she can even go online and post anonymously. But whatever she does, she should not suppress it, and she should not feel ashamed or guilty. It was not her fault.

This.