Re: Distressed friend, need help.
I agree that everyone knows their parents best … i went through something and I did not want to tell my mother as she is a heart patient , gets tensed very quickly, it raises her bp and does not have a good effect on her heart but I knew i was strong and old enough to handle it myself (it was not this bad though)
I have to say if we keep thinking things are not going to change in this decade so lets not do anything then things will never change … how are things ever going to change !!!
I agree with the police part as no one can change the entire police force and make them do the right thing … i know a family who had to pay the police to get off their back when the family was actually the victim
But as for not doing anything about the guy , well how would anyone in the family know he is not to be trusted if no one says anything !!!
What about the wife, does she not have a right to know that her husband is this kind of a person, he may continue to be like this once he moves to the UK.
OP: I think you know your friend, may be you know her parents too … you can best decide if her mother will understand … even if the mother will not tell the entire family , she can trust some others in the family and tell them the guy is not to be trusted. May be she will be more careful next time and not send anyone to pickup the daughter. The girl needs support from someone in the family too. I know people love to gossip but I do not want to believe that there is no one in the family who will not gossip and will not understand.