all i can say is to call him again... and ask him if he have some time for u.. then tell him each and everything you feel from the last couple of months.. and look at his response.. if he can satisfy your heart then stay with him if not.. then wats a point of crying for someone who doesnt even wanan be with u.. he may say he wants to marry you but thats not what u want... u want him to care for you.. to respect you and your feelings.. and to understand your heart and put himself in your shoe and undertand the whole situation... its extremely important.. warna sari zindagi pachtana paray ga :(
My brother was engaged for a year, with him sitting in London and his fiance in Pak.
They kept in touch almost every day, via email, MSN Messenger, Yahoo Messenger, SMS messages and telephone calls.
My brother booked out entire sections of every day to be time that they could spend talking, and did that for a year, apart from exceptional circumstances like business trips & holidays.
Distance is no boundary, as long as both people are commited enough to the relationship to make the effort to keep communication open.
good for ur brother .. wel its proper rare to see it now a dayz .. specialy the civilized western world we are in … but yea some ppl still manage to keep their easter significance alive n so did ur bro … but some dude like me .. chances are slim to be none to be that loyal to anyone lol
but i don agree with ur piece of litrature presented .. i think DISTANCE can create a pretty clear space in ones relationship n do make a deeep impact on any relation. i just feel it now when i talk to my old skool frinz .. its like i wana talk abt everythin to em … but they dont understand my situation .. they need to step in the same shoe innit ?
i have been married five years, had known my wife several years before that. I live in Uk and she in Pakistan. We have mostly had a long distance relationship, with the exception of living together for 3 years when we first got married. I came back to study again and it really sucks. Sje doesn't want to come over for one reason or another but I am on the fone daily for about an hour, send each other sms every few mins (even when i am sat in lectures), she stays awake all night cos i am sending sms and then i stay awake all night cos she is sending sms to me. On top of all that we even write to each other every 2 weeks, and really long letters. Sometimes i think if i didnt fone at least i could visit at least once a month (all the saving from the fone bill) but when it comes down to it we couldnt cope without having spoken everyday. i go back every holidays december and summer, but long distance SUCKS BADLY. I pray all the time that this ends soon, but i still got at least 7 years studies to go :(
On another note, reply to a thread i read here. when your other half tells you you dont care about her just cos you havent foned for 2 days or why you havent foned for 2 days had no excuse. This irritates so much and hurts really bad. you end up feeling like she doesnt really know you and how much you care and love for her. Women please dont think about the 2 days he didnt fone ut rather all the times that he does!!!
I had a distance relationship after i was married i went back to Holland and my husband
was still in Pakistan was very hard for me and him but we write each other and call ect.
After a year he came to Holland but i must say its very hard if someone who you love is not
with you.
*Multani malang: * awwwwwwwwwwwwwww that is sooo sweeett... May the love between you and her grows each day...ameen
i can imagine that it really sucks.... why cant she also pay a visit to uk.. i knwo she doesnt wanan live here.. but may be for one or two months... it will atleast save one month of a phone bill and you guys will form a new memories with each other.. ?
aww wow mashallah that is sooo cute i pray Allah blesses your marriage and keeps the love and mercy between you! and i pray that Allah makes your time easy for you both and accpets this sacrifice which you both have made…because i know..it such a hard sacrifice..and after reading your comment im never ever going to say to my husband why didnt you ring/text..you dont care about me crap…i kknow how he must feel and i feel bad for saying it to him!
Multany- Mashallah you seem to be going through with your relationship fine. By the way 7 years is a lot. You might want to call her before that...
And anyone who has seemed to have a good long distance relationship....that is really good to hear. But I think personally for me it was hard because our relationship started off long distance and its hard to build a relationship when we rarely talk.
At the beginning after Nikkah and few months after Rukhsati we had a long distance relationship, we wrote daily emails and almost daily calls too. It cost a fortune for phone calls. But it was hard not to call and ask about eachother more often. We dont ever want to be in a long distance situation again, it can be frustrating not to be able to talk to eachother. One advantage is that love grows even more and you get to appreciate the relationship even more but the draw back is the frustration of not seeing eachother.
And that frustration kills like a slow and very painful death. Its so easy for those who never fall in love, but if it means not having all those nice things then I will choose to have a long distance over not at all. This frustration hurts so bad but it feels so good. Do you know what i mean…?
i know what you mean…sometimes i say silly things like it would have been better if we didnt meet and didnt have the nikkah then at least you wouldnt be going through all this pain and anguish and frustration and sleepless nights…but then having someone there for you and love you makes you feel so good and special…o its hard sigh
I know what you mean, its so hard but its also so awarding, hang in there, the time will pass and then sometime this long distance relationship will end too.
wow, we have similarities, i am in london and she is in Pak, and she has same name as yours. but we are married now.
but i do beleive in contact oftenly to understand more before marriage. i use to that, and i still do it after marriage.
in your case he is in Pak, so calls from there can put strain on his budget so dont just think its his own feeling, there can be more to it.
a long distance relationship may not survive if there is no hope to be together.
… lerki, train n bus … eik jai to next ka wait kero 