So whether it be your bf/gf, fiance, or husband/wife how do you guys deal with distant relationships??? And distant as in living in another country. Do you still take the time to talk everyday?
Also along the lines of relationships (boy girl relationship) how often have you gone without talking to your special one? And not for because you were mad at them..
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its really hard to keep up with this kind of realtionship specially when one person is busy, plus time difference.
i talk to my other half daily for about 2 hours, but still she isnt happy about it. it causes stress on both sides because she thinks i dont care about her, and on my side i think she doesnt apperciate it at all.
so I think its going to stay like that until she will be with me.
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They say "absence makes the heart grow fonder".
Its good to talk, everyday if you feel it necessary, to keep the relationship going.
But each side must be mature enough to realise and understand that that some people can be busy, so they wont have time to keep in touch as much as they would like to.
They do work but it can get a bit difficult at times, especially when you really do miss that person, but just look forward to the time when you will be together again. :)
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Its very Xpensive
Causes frustration
Not good at all
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Out of sight out of mind 
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Long distance relationships suck!! :(
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Believe me pyaari it is not gonna work.... Yeah obviously you can like someone whom you have never met, or is far away from you... but it is not going to last for longer.. unless you dont meet that person :)
And according to Malik.. it costs too much :(
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exactly… same kinds stuff happend to me… i mean dis girl never took me seriously and always thought dat i am playing wid her.. she wouldnt try to understand my feelings and thought that i dont care about her… but it wasn’t true… i did care abt her more den anything.. however couldnt express it alot… but its all finished now.. didn’t work out at all… too many misunderstanding resulted in a broke up.
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I n my husband lived in different countries for almost 2 years in begining…he did call me every single day …sometimes even twice or thrice a day …no matter what!..n no no …he doesn’t have a lot of free time …he works 12 hrs a day 7 days a week …n sometimes even more
n now too …we r apart quite often n whenever he’s not here he calls me everytime …the only time we ever have lost contact for a few days was when he went for hajj , this year
yes there r frustrations …n depressions sometimes …n i confess it was me who used to get bitter n frustrated …but Alhamdulillah that phase is passed , hopefully never to come back
now i think we r blessed we have telephones n resources to keep in touch …imagine how it would have been some 30 years back …when the only thing you could do was writing letters …n that too will take ages to reach destination!Thanx to Almighty for his blessings!
Shak kills i understand your point …but i’ve been in this situation, all i know is its a lot more sensitive for women …than men …try to understand her! 
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BIG TIME 
Why??? Shak Kills explained it well.
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My fiance is in Pak and im in London, we got engaged last summer and at first when i came back to the UK we talked everyday but as time went on, we talked less and less.
I think the last time I talked to him was about 2 months ago, he just doesnt make the effort anymore and now its making me rethink the whole situation.
If he is like this before marriage, what will he be like after we get married?
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^^ its not like he is like this or anything....i am sure this is the first time he is in THIS kind of a situation and there might not be anyone to guide him.....i think as long as we get to know the KHAIRIAT and the tit bits its all good..colpeting avoiding it is not good either.
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2 months is not good.
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ok.. so my bro is like the ultimate guru of this thing.. they have been engaged for almost 1.5 yrs and havne't talked to each other.. other than asking.. "aaj mausum kaisa tha?".. woh bhi once in 3 or 4 months.. that's if they talk
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^^ ur bro and i are in the same boat…well kinda 
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I feel the same way and I am in the same situation. Its like we used to talk everyday and if not everyday at least 3 to 4 times a weeks. And recently he hasn’t been coming online that much and now I feel like I am the only one making the initiative to stay in touch. And even then when I call it sometimes seems like he is too busy. I am like why am I wasting my calling card if you can’t talk. I just think that I call after so long why can’t he just take 5 or 10 mins of his time to talk. And I sorta just give up now. And I keep thinking that what if he doesn’t like me… I don’t know what to do…need some advice.
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well stop marrying for visas.
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Shoby jee may be she did understand but you didnt 
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well i have been through all this so all i can say is that i used to get all mad and grumpy and always complained to my paents about it but they could not help me…
i still remeber one time she could not come online and when i asked her the next day she replied we better not setup the time anymore and talk whenever we meet online…i was shocked…then i realized there is no point in getting angry as these are very minor issues. However, its totally a different situation when you are married.
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mu husband is away from me and i dont get to speak to him everyday and if he doesnt text me in a day or doeant ring me for ages i start accusing him of not caring and not having time for me! which is really silly coz i always feel bad but anyway what i wanted to ask you coz you’re a guy does it get on you nerves when your says to you, youd ont care about her? i just wanna get a feeling of how my hubby must feel when i do it to him this topic has got me thinking about him again…