Is this a desi thing or people who have an ethnic background?
Why do parents raise kids who cant fend for themselves? who have outburts about having their own life and being allowed to do whatever they God given want, but cant even boil an anda for themselves… for that, ammi dearest is there… and no, we dont ask respectfully if she can make it for us… we order her “im hungry” and the food should be there within minutes..
Why do we spend our lives raising na shukre kids..
I am not saying, kids need to obey and blindly accept whatever their parents say. I am not saying, that we do “haan haan jo aap ki marzi” with things to do with choosing spouses or other important things in our lives… but where do we get off disrepecting them in terms of having a decent conversation?
Why do parents allow this? What are they afraid of? That the child may run off and never come back because you asked him where he/she was? when he/she will be back so you can plan things accordingly? is that what parents are afraid of?
I see some parents just succumb to their childrens idiocy… but who really is to blame… the parent or the child? Both?
At some point, the child does become an adult (in some form… cant say they behave like one), so can they still blame their parents for the way they are?
do you mean not respectable..? I didn't know disrespectable was a word...
Oh I don't understand it either but I'm seeing it a lot with the 21st century parents especially those who claim they had a difficult childhood with parents that were OH SO STRICT... its laughable really and the worse part they send their bratty kids to school and complain to the teacher...
Anywho I don't think many parents like being told how to parent their children so if you see a horrifying kid just ignore them and make sure you raise your kid to be respectful towards elders, have manners etc etc
My SO thinks I'm going to be a very strict mum but he also thinks my sons would love me because I won't make them drive me around.
It really varies , I think there is no harm in being attentive to your child when he/she is younger (< 6), but then you need to teach them the importance of respect, empathy , and self reliance
u can not pin point to desiiiii (after all i am also a desi ) parents respect is a matter of a person u can’t say that only desi do that, what about these valitiii
what u say about western people & their family situation…
Is this a desi thing or people who have an ethnic background?
Why do parents raise kids who cant fend for themselves? who have outburts about having their own life and being allowed to do whatever they God given want, but cant even boil an anda for themselves... for that, ammi dearest is there.... and no, we dont ask respectfully if she can make it for us... we order her "im hungry" and the food should be there within minutes..
I do think part of it has to do with the fact that being "innocent" or "bhola-bhala/i" is a good trait to have....I remember someone saying in another thread that parents are proud when their kids are "dumb" because the innocense is a good thing. and while it's cute as a kid, as an adult being naive just hurts YOU when you get out into the real world....that naivete can lead to bitterness which leads to angry outbursts. That's my theory. Or, you know, I'm just blbabbering.
Are you talking about trends and ways of new generation parents and kids or this is just another one of those threads to bash and moan about previous generation of parents who are probably enjoying their retirement now...
this is not a desi bashing thread. And I am not talking about mothers in pakistan as opposied to desi mothers living abroad.
I am not talking about our parents generation.
I am talking about desi kids (or kids in general… and this was my actual question, whether it is infact a desi thing or not.. which has been TOTALLY missed). So, what I am talking about is kids (aka young teens and immature adults) who believe they can lie to parents, close doors on parents while the parent is talking to them, refuse to give straight answers, .. rave on about how its their life, but expect their parents to pay for the education and not have to pay a penny back…
and parents, still think they are best thing in the world and should be pampered…
yup its a desi thing .. but going along with what sara516 said adding to that i think desi parents want to keep their kids dependent on them on every level almost so that they can control them .. n that frustrates the kids afterwards
I'm sorry sadzz that everybody is reacting this way. I was at some mall in Sydney once and there was these kids and their mothers... the kids were screaming each other and the mothers just thought it was cute no concern for other people there -.-"
They are proud to be Kaam chor.
) parents respect is a matter of a person u can’t say that only desi do that, what about these valitiii