Disrespectful in laws

newbee13 · October 13, 2015, 8:59pm

Re: Disrespectful in laws

Sorry i have 20+ years of marriage over you.

Why on Earth did you marry your husband if you knew they were not as religious as your family.

If it were my daughter i would tell her to stop acting pretty darn arrogant, and you wanted this marriage, so make it work. Stop over sensitising each issue.

Before you tout your religious- osity, My own father was not a religious person, his naikiya were amazing. He would give the shirt off his back to those in need. Upon his deathbed, he died reciting the Kalimah again and again. So advice here, please do not think because you hit the floor praying 5 times a day, or observe purdah makes you better.

When my father died, my BIL attended another mosque in another town for Jummah prayer. after the prayer the imam stood up and announced "There is a Brother on his deathbed, who was instrumental in helping our students get these prayer facilities 20 years ago, this same brother donates generously "

My BIL and others then asked the imam who the sick brother was , and that they would like to visit him .

The Imam then disclosed the name. The name was my father’s, can you imagine that. After which my BIL informed the Imam of his relationship and that he had passed away two days prior.

So some advice, don’t judge..

I’m glad you all are here to give advice to me with so much experience. I believe you have all misunderstood. Anyway I understand. On these forums I can’t give the whole details as it’s extremely long. I am the last person on this earth to judge anyone. I am not proud arrogant. And yes I don’t think one has to be extremely religious.. However yes I believe there are a few characteristics one should have.. Im sure your dad was a lovely man. May Allah grant him the highest rank.
I’m sorry I am over sensitive about things and I also over think.. It’s because of alot of things that have happened and alot if things which I can’t mention here. Hope you understand.