Re: Disrespectful in laws
Listen Newbee…
Yes, your in-laws are different from you. Differences will always be there. The danger is when someone starts thinking that their personality and way of doing things is “superior” to others. The danger in comparing ourselves to others too much is that it can lead to insecurities or it can even lead to becoming arrogant and we may not even recognize that arrogance or pride within ourselves.
Your in-laws may have done many other naikiyan that you may not be aware of…for which Allah might have rewarded them in this duniya and the next in various ways. Your in-laws might value helping others, but maybe they prefer to help in other ways and not necessarily letting someone stay in their home.
We may think to ourselves that we are very religious and practicing but that is still no guarantee that we will end up in jannat.
And you cannot “make” your husband pray. You can gently encourage him and you should encourage him, but hidayat is ultimately from Allah. If we are not careful in the way we guide others, it may push them further away.