Disabled

Lifestyle Relationships
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After hearing about something…I was curious.

How many of you would marry someone deaf, mute or blind or physically disabled?

Honest answer.

As cruel as it is I don’t think many of us would.

Maybe the justification would be ‘oh there’d be too much pressure in terms of taking care’ but should it matter that much? Is it all bodily features that count?

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Re: Disabled

To be brutally honest, I wouldn’t. :bummer:

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Re: Disabled

Nor would I, its shallow I agree

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Re: Disabled

But, Allah na kare, if something happens to him after marriage, I will be good and make him gaajar ka halwa n all. :wub:

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Re: Disabled

Atleast don’t it worse by your disasters in kitchen i.e. your cooking!

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Re: Disabled

:naraz: You are a mentally disabled dope (read retard)!

stamps foot

exits life1

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Re: Disabled

ok you wrote a vulgar gandi punjabi gaali to me and you blame it to spelling?! You should be punished :teary1:

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Re: Disabled

I guess you will never know :chai: Now stop derailing your own thread.

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Re: Disabled

To be completely honest, I don't know...I mean of course I'd have my doubts, but I'd never mind taking care of him or getting used to it, never. If there are other factors about him that would cancel this small 'flaw' out then I wouldn't really be phased. It's the person they are, in the end, that counts.

I sound unbelievably cheesy, but it's true /=

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Re: Disabled

Stop writing in perfect grammar. When its you its not natural. :chai:

There’s nothing to de-rail yet :rotfl:

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Re: Disabled

I just saw your reply, fair enough

who knew you could be so mature :hayya:

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Re: Disabled

At this point, where I have no [disabled/differently able] person in sight who I can feel the care for, I wouldn't go for it.

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if it was love and i guess it depends on the situation and how long we've known each other, friends since childhood, if he was a good human being in all ways and there's an attraction........it would come down to money and whether taking care of him wouldn't be causing problems with the relationship. a man with a stellar personality, awesome skills(in all ways/rooms ahem), compromising, caring,loving,respectful, total friend/lover all in one, seriously him being in a wheelchair wouldn't be an issue....atleast i dont' think so, it's hard to give a concrete answer b/c it would depend on the disability.

if he's a total vegetable, not being able to talk, walk, think, put together a sentence and at the level of a 5 yr old, it wouldn't be much of a life for the person married to such a person, would it?

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Re: Disabled

maybe not

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If I loved them, yes. I would.

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Love marriage = yes, probably

Arranged marriage = no, probably (cos the bond wouldn't already be there)

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Re: Disabled

^ Very well put

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If some mishap happens after already being in a relationship with the guy, I won't leave him although things will get hard for sure.

If it's a rishta process, it will be most likely be No from me if someone is disabled in a way where he doesn't have one of his key senses. :( But if it's something else like an accidental burn on some body part, childhood polio etc, I would definitely consider it if the guy is a gem on the inside and has the qualities I've always wanted. My family probably won't even consider such a prospect for me though and that is disheartening. :( They would probably worry about log kya kahenge.

All in all, easier said than done.

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umm but Shak and Deeba, even in arranged marriage it would depend on the person.

i'm pretty sure in the villages or the less superficial people in the world would marry someone they've grown up with. they might not have loved them before marriage but their parents might have been friends.

i know a woman that's married(arranged) to a man that has problems walking. b/c of a sickness in his childhood his one leg has problems. but she married him nonetheless because of his personality and overall sweet nature after the first few meetings with him.

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Re: Disabled

I hope when it comes to me making a decision in real life I won't be so shallow.
Presently, the answer would be no, but it depends on the circumstances. If the guy was severely disabled, so much so that he can't have a practical role in my life then no.
However, if he has a synthetic arm or is in a wheelchair yet still has a job that pays well enough to keep shelter above our heads and food in our stomachs, and if he's truly a good person then hopefully I would have the strength to say yes.
I do hope though that I never have to make such a decision, but such if life.