re: Dilemma
I strongly disagree with this. The guy in this case has 3 more years of schooling to finish…so I’m assuming both the OP and the guy are young (22 or under). For them to rush into marriage so that he can get his British citizenship is a BAD idea. Despite being “in love”, this guy is ready to leave her right now for his family. He’s obviously not in a position to financially support anyone. The OP obviously is not in a position to financially support a husband (she doesn’t have the money to give him to extend his visa). So by them getting married right now…OP will still be supported by her own family…and her family is now forced into a corner to support their new son-in-law.
Above situation creates negative feelings on both sides. OP’s family WILL look down on the son-in-law if they’re forced to support him from day 1 of the marraige. The guy’s EGO will be effected b/c he knows he’s dependent on his wife and her family. Sooner or later…these feelings (from both sides) will come back to haunt them.
Besides…as I said earlier, this guy is ready to leave OP for his family. If they get married now…how does the OP know that the #1 reason the guy is marrying her is b/c he loves her…and NOT b/c he needs British citizenship? I know here in the U.S., I know several couples in-real-life where this happened. Marriage was rushed b/c one of the spouses needed citizenship…and once they got it…things changed. I have 2 close friends who’re divorced now…1 was a love marriage (very similar situation to OP’s), and other marriage family-arranged to her 1st cousin…the “immigrants” in both cases now have their U.S. citizenship…and both my friends are now divorced women.
Personally, I would never take such a huge risk with my future. The OP needs to seriously consider the very potential consequences before MARRYING a guy right now so he can get his citizenship…especially a guy who already went back on his promise to her and is ready to leave her.