Guys i have a dilemma, its my son’s birthday soon, and i’ve arranged a party for him, i had made all the arrangements and distributed all the invites.
My sisters son also has his birthday this month, the minute she found out I was having a big party for my son, she starting whingeing and complaining saying her son wanted a big party etc etc but did not have enough friends to make up the nimbers for the party venue which I had booked… i told her that if she wanted to her son could bring some friends along to my sons party…she happily agreed.
Now that the party is only days away, she is saying that she wants her sons name put on my sons birthday cake, and wants it to be declared a joint party.
i’m really annoyed guys because i wanted to something nice for my son and now shes’ totally hijacking my sons party…these things are always happening and i’m at the end of my tether
my hubby thinks i’m a fool for even offering, as she would never do the same for me
I know how you feel...this has happened in our families so many a times that people have given up on doing birthdays anymore..moral of the story is dont be too sweet! You offered, which was nice of you but you know what they say you give a finger and they end up holding the hand..
I would suggest you explain to her how important you find the birthday and how you would like it to be really his 'day'....therefore
she brings her own cake
she helps you with some of the cooking too
and I would suggest not making a habit of this....
I really hope your sons day is not ruined over this..but at the end of the day she is your sister and sometimes you have to move back and look at the situation..does it really matter that much?
Personally i would be happy to have a joint birthday party of my child with my sister's child....but then again i wouldnt be happy if it was something we ended up doing every year as kids do like to feel special....
Good luck with it all and let us know how you got on...
thanx 4 d advice guys…wil see how it goes inshAlllah
i feel bad as well, but then i know if it was the other way round she wouldnt give a ‘toss’ about my feelings…dekhte hain kya banta hai
I agree with the rest here. Have a separate cake. Your son does not have to share his cake with another birthday boy. It should be solo name of your son if you guys are paying for it.
The other bday boy can LIGHT the candle? and wear the party hat! let your son blow the candles!
What does she expect you to do? Call up all the guests and ask them to pencil in her son's name? What about presents? Does she expect you to divide them too? This is kind of an imposition and not really fair to you.
A separate cake is in order...dont share the cake.
Let her know in clear but polite words that "haan, meine socha ke kamaskam cake to saat kaat lein...logon ko bataney ke liye to bohot deir hochuki hai".
I feel bad but its not right of her to bulldoze your son's birthday party like this. Its rude.
Awww dear lots of hugs for you. You are such a nice persong that you become hijacked by your sister. I understand your pain. lol
Happy birthday to your son. Yeah I agree with others too is a good idea to bring her own cake. Ask her politely I don’t know how old is your son that he wouldn’t like sharing his cake.
Husband could say anything don’t mind husbands mostly don’t like sisters things. So just don’t take it seriously.
If she doesn’t bring cake then don’t worry put his son name on your cake. Husband ko pata lain.
Koi farq naheen parta. Allah kisi kay liaay kuch karnay say aur nawazta hai.
Ppl call those nice person a fool they think those person are fool who are being good with the ppl and pp get benefit from them.
But they are so very wrong Good hearted ppl are not fool. Allah love them.
So don’t worry be happy and enjoy the party. May you live long happily with your son.
I pray for you kay Allah aur itna day aap ko kay aap is say achchi party karain aur apnay nephew ki bhi karain. Wo bhi to akhir aap kay betay ki tarha hai.
Agar aap ki bahan aik cake lanay ko bhi tayyar naheen hoti to apnay paison say lay ain aur batain kay bahan lai hai lol. Allah aap ko aur day ga. Is tarha na husband naraz aur bahan bhi khush aur khud bhi khush hoin meri is baat say kay Allah aap ko us say doogna day ga. Insha Allah.
When is your son birthday. I would say happy birhth day to you for your son on that day. Agar bhoola naheen to.
will let u know how it goes guys, my sons gonna be 4 on friday IA and nephews gonna be 6.....IA all will be well..
i feel like a selfish cow....but the thing is she has done her sons party every year except for last year, and i have had no expectations from her...but this year my son wants a party with his friends which is why i am doing one, and everyone is expecting me to make it a joint party, so as not to hurt her feelings......i'm so frustrated and annoyed that i can't do what i want for my kids without anyone interfering
i need to calm down..............breath in...............breathe out.....................
ignore me guys i'm just letting off steam
will let u know how it goes guys, my sons gonna be 4 on friday IA and nephews gonna be 6.....IA all will be well..
i feel like a selfish cow....but the thing is she has done her sons party every year except for last year, and i have had no expectations from her...but this year my son wants a party with his friends which is why i am doing one, and everyone is expecting me to make it a joint party, so as not to hurt her feelings......i'm so frustrated and annoyed that i can't do what i want for my kids without anyone interfering
i need to calm down..............breath in...............breathe out.....................
ignore me guys i'm just letting off steam
I can understand what you want. It's not good that ppl are asking you to have a joint party. But if you offered better to buy a seperate cake for nephew.
As your son wouldn't like cake sharing. Good for you you shared. It will ease you from the support of gs ppls.
will let u know how it goes guys, my sons gonna be 4 on friday IA and nephews gonna be 6.....IA all will be well..
i feel like a selfish cow....but the thing is she has done her sons party every year except for last year, and i have had no expectations from her...but this year my son wants a party with his friends which is why i am doing one, and everyone is expecting me to make it a joint party, so as not to hurt her feelings......i'm so frustrated and annoyed that i can't do what i want for my kids without anyone interfering
i need to calm down..............breath in...............breathe out................
ignore me guys i'm just letting off steam
Then do it next year, learn from this mistake and do not offer her again. If you do what you want now, you will nto only make yourself look bad, ull hurt ur sister. I doubt son will care, and even if he does-its not a tragedy and he'll get over it.
Then do it next year, learn from this mistake and do not offer her again. If you do what you want now, you will nto only make yourself look bad, ull hurt ur sister. I doubt son will care, and even if he does-its not a tragedy and he'll get over it.
let your son blow the candles! 
