Re: Dilemma thats killing me
Wow..it took me forever to read through all those posts!!! Great advisors here with LOADS to say!!
I have a little suggestion for you two BEFORE you contemplate living together. Why not have her do 'trial runs' of things you would like her to practice when you are living together, like wearing a hijab or even to try to develop a relationship with your parents by calling them at least once a week.
Also, if you have concerns about her religious knowledge, you could suggest she starts becoming more proactive about learning by going to religious circles in her area.
No one should do anything because they fear their husband or feel compelled to do something. If she can show change before living with you, she will probably be able to change after living with you, even more.
I do believe that you cannot make a person come towards their religion until they are ready to do so. Only Allah can say if she will or can change after marriage through your influence or influence of other good people. But if she is willing to come towards Allah by herself, the odds inshallah will be in your favor for a happy successful marriage.
Also, if she is not willing to do this or is unable to show progress in your areas of concern over a period of time, it may show that it will be harder for her to change after marriage and hopefully this will help guide you further in your decision.