Re: Dilemma thats killing me
Only Allah knows what is in somebody's heart. Maybe to you someone might only be a "cultural Pakistani Muslim" but in Allah's eyes she makes her small efforts with 100% sincerity.
She may not wear hijab all the time. She may not attend every Islamic lecture. She may not pray Jummah in masjid. BUT maybe when does sajda during her namaz, her heart is 100% sincere. Maybe when she opens the Quran.....her heart is pure.
Something to think about isn't it? Talking about things is not enough to change people. Actions speak louder than words. You both don't live together yet. If you lived together as husband and wife....you can demonstrate how to do things. Living together changes things.
I agree with MysticalRain....pray Istikhara. And maybe from the Istikhara you will get some guidance about what you should do (stay married or end things).