Ok so my mum has been on holiday in pakistan since October. Since then I have been doing all my own cooking. I make exellent saag, aloo gobi, aubergine, mixed vegetable, pindiya salans. I have really enjoyed cooking and look forward to my dinner, as i have been on a diet and my meals must be tasty.
Last week my sister has moved back in with us. She has tried to “take over” the cooking. Trouble is she is a terrible cook. She has no idea, mainly buying ready made sauces from the supermarket.
How do i tell her she is spoiling my dinner without offending her?
yesterday she made quorn mince. It was very bland. Today she said she is making saag paneer. Hope it is an improvement.
you should post this in life 1....it's best suited for there in my opinion.
just tell her that you would like to cook yourself because with mom gone this is your only chance to learn. If she insists on cooking then just let her cook her thing and you cook your thing.
I agree with mAd. Little bits of adjustments are fine if done. Its enough nice of her taking up the responsibility. I rather envy you lol. Anyway, If u think there is no way out, like if she insists, cook you food urself along. I hope you find some middle way to cope with the situation.
Just tell your sis how very much you enjoy cooking for yourself, that its your relaxation-time and enjoyment. That is not offensive to her or to her cooking and she should be able to understand i think. And maybe involve her in your cooking, explaining to her what you are doing and why. Will be a nice experience for you both :)
It's so strange... I am so close to my brother that I would be honest and say "Dude, I don't like your cooking" and because we are so close, my brother would say "fine, cook yourself and make me something while you're at it."
I don't understand this type of hypersensitivity and "takalluf" with your own sibling.
It's so strange... I am so close to my brother that I would be honest and say "Dude, I don't like your cooking" and because we are so close, my brother would say "fine, cook yourself and make me something while you're at it."
I don't understand this type of hypersensitivity and "takalluf" with your own sibling.
sorry, but how can you say that about yours sister?
please as an elder sibling and a married one, you must respect your sister.
this will dishearten her but if you cant be kind in keeping your sister in your home, but, you better tell her to simply leave.
explain to her with your spouse also present in that conversation, that the two of you would like her to not cook daily. there is no way that she wont be considerate enough if you were to politely ask her to take turns in cooking with you and your spouse.
maybe she is trying to help since she is staying with you. ??
and you are reading this erroneously as her imposing herself on your family life.
best,
Dushwari
why don't you encourage her to make foods without readymade sauces. Tell her how those sauces r very high in sodium, not as healthy as home mdae stuff. try to cook together that way maybe she can learn better cooking too, that is if you really are the better cook of the two :D
