DIL not wanting to live with MIL

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You've only heard one side of the argument... believed it in an instant and come to the quick conclusion that the girl is a selfish pig!

Woah...don't ever join a jury! Lol.

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You know, I browse other forums and most people give the benefit of the doubt to teh poster. This is the only forum i've seen where everone is ready to jump dwon the OP's throat for not giving the other side.

Not every situation has another side, and sometimes things are what they are.

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Probably because the information they have given can be quite difficult to believe etc - this forum is quite personal as well.

I've done jury service and I would get astonished how opposite some of the arguments were! I mean literally **they were **totally opposite which would make our (the jury's) decision even harder!

I think this situation has two sides. I'm talking about this thread. I'd love to hear the other person's side of the argument to outline what position they're in. Although it most probably would never happen in this forum but it's fair to see equal exposure to arguments from both sides.

Other than that may Allah Ta'lah swt help them overcome whatever problems they are facing and most importantly help the poor MIL battle with her cancer.

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The LITERAL, TOTALLY OPPOSITE case of this scenario would be that its not the MIL but the DIL who has cancer. which, is simply not true.
Lets say there IS another side, and the DIL is extremely unhappy, typical situation where everything sucks for DIL cuz the in-laws are just mean and evil. EVEN then, would you say the DIL and son should move out in this scenario.

I mean, how mean does the MIL have to be to warrant having to spend the last few months of her life without her son and how desperate does a DIL have to to be for independence to not be able to wait even a few months for MIL's death after which she would have all the freedom she needs.

Now that I think about it, maybe DIL is afraid that when MIL gets much sicker, the DIL will be stuck doing khidmat for her and wants to move out before that happens. As for right now, the MIL cooks dinner for everybody and is totally self-sufficient. Maybe its better if they move out ASAP, so MIL isn't even MORE hurt when she is increasingly dependent and THEN DIL creates fuss regarding independence etc.

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This sounds so cruel, but maybe if somebody explains to her that soon she will be mil-les forever and that she should have little patience and bear her mil for the time being.

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in majority of cases, the MILs die way before the DIL. and in other cases, the DIL eventually moves out...after some years.

Now that doesn't stop them from having problems and all that jazz... look around Life1 and see the anti-MIL threads.. You will get an idea.

Actually it has nothing to do with the life span of MIL, or the period of stay with the MIL. Its some sort of genetics at work here.

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The opposite case of scenario could be that the MIL has cancer and the DIL cares for her MIL like her own mum, yet the DIL is completely unappreciated by her in-laws side.

Are you the SIL by any chance?

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hahaha!

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NO, like I said earlier, MIL is my aunt and so I'm the cousin-in-law. I have minimal interaction with everyone in teh family but I hear the stories through my cousin (the son/husband) and my mom who regularly talks to MIL in question and it just got on my nerves one day so I shared on here.

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So there we have it...based on hear-say you've decided to bash the DIL. Hope you feel mighty and proud.