Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
Why should she discuss this with her husband to be? All she is asking, is for advice from girls who are already on the pill.
She doesn't want to get pregnant on the 1st night. She is just anxious as any girl would be i guess!
Anyway my advice- Go to doctor or even talk to a friend who is already on birth control- get the pills and start in advance i guess. Then after marriage once you and your hubby start talking about family-you can stop taking the pill.
No matter how religious someone is- as i remember you mentioning that previously- end of the day you don't want to get pregnant-so take the pill and discuss it with him after marriage or before if he ever brings the topic up.
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
if you don;t want to start a family then you can inform your husband to wait so you don;t need any pills or other waste of time and pills. one of my friends gain huge weight just because she took the pill as her husband don;t want a baby then later they got pregnant by accident!? the pill is not 100% working unless you don;t do anything with your husband.
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
the tablets i would taking is hayfever because the weather is very hot and often caught sneeze, i don;t want to sneeze a lot in my wedding day , that is more important than the birth control pill!? hehehehe
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
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She doesn't want to get pregnant on the 1st night. She is just anxious as any girl would be i guess!"
----------------------------------it would be happen if they knew each other and love each other a lot. it will not happen if they are on arrange marriage! don;t worry, your husband will not force you to get pregnant on first night both of you don't know each other before------------------
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
There are a lot of methods of BC available including the pill. You should speak to ur husband to be and then a doctor and make an intelligent decision. There is no reason for you to even speak to anyone else.
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
when are you getting married nadz? I wonder what topics are we going to have here from you after your marriage? :halo: let life happen to you girl..rather than trying to live it like controlling tv channels/volume,etc using a remote control !
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
OH YES OK il go ask my clueless fiance 2mrw somewhere in between me asking him for tea and what he would like to eat for dinner, in between those questions il say hey so what contraception u thinking of using matecos though we not married at all yet, and we have some sort of humility/modesty/tameez/haya boundary, i think this question is complety normal to be asking someone whose fairly relgious, hardly talks to women, barely talks to me yet cos we havent had nikaah, and looks perplexed and frightened when theres a romantic scene in a film, he cant jump fast enuff to change the channel…so yeh il ask him 2mrw
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
Because......................
This is one thing you are too embarresed to discuss with your Mom and here you are, discussing with the entire world and more over its a very very bold issue, to which your response is very open.............You know what I mean............right.
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
Wll u seem to talk about everything 2 him!! People on this forum dont know wht he’s like u do, so we r only giving u a suggestion., but u seem to want to bite every1’s head off when they do
If u r so worried abt seek professional advice why cum to GS and ask
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
Because......................
This is one thing you are too embarresed to discuss with your Mom and here you are, discussing with the entire world and more over its a very very bold issue, to which your response is very open.............You know what I mean............right.
ok discussing with mum....SHE KNOWS ME, SHE CAN SEE MY FACE FALL INTO DIFFERENT SHADES OF RED, DROP ONTO THE GROUND CREATING A HUGE HOLE FOR ME TO DIE IN, AND IN THE PROCESS RUIN MY MOTHERS MARBLE FLOORING IF I EVER MENTION SEX/CONTRACEPTION TO HER...R U KIDDING.....if it was that easy i woulda askd her ages ago stupidosssss
and noone knows me here let me repeat NO ONE KNOWS ME HERE, AND NO ONE CAN SEE MY FACE FALL ONTO MARBLE FLOOR AND CRACK.....so its all good.
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
ok discussing with mum....SHE KNOWS ME, SHE CAN SEE MY FACE FALL INTO DIFFERENT SHADES OF RED, DROP ONTO THE GROUND CREATING A HUGE HOLE FOR ME TO DIE IN, AND IN THE PROCESS RUIN MY MOTHERS MARBLE FLOORING IF I EVER MENTION SEX/CONTRACEPTION TO HER...R U KIDDING.....if it was that easy i woulda askd her ages ago stupidosssss
and noone knows me here let me repeat NO ONE KNOWS ME HERE, AND NO ONE CAN SEE MY FACE FALL ONTO MARBLE FLOOR AND CRACK.....so its all good.
why dont you send her an anonymous letter saying "if i were your daughter, what should i do?"
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
Welcome to Health Fitness!!! :D
Regarding the pill... and what to do. Hmmm, here's my point of view.
Islamically, yes you are allowed to use contraception as you are just trying to delay getting pregnant. There are other technical things but this isn't the place to dicuss that.
Before getting married, it may be a good idea to get a physical exam done and discuss birth control options with your physician. Once you have all the options you can discuss with your fiance if you are comfortable. If not, then I'm sure you guys will figure something out when the time comes.
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
discuss it with your doctor- birth control needs at least a full cycle (i.e. a month) to be effective, and as other girls have advised, the first pill you try might not be the best pill for you. speak to your doctor, make an appointment, and get it done. this is important unless you want to be pregnant right away.
and also, while yes, it would be great if you could discuss it with your husband, since you can't, remember that its not as if taking the pill doesn't mean you can't come off it just as easily and then proceed to get pregnant in a perfectly normal way. the pill does NOT affect your fertility- many studies have shown this and your own doctor can confirm it. it might delay when you want chlidren by a few months while the hormones exit your system OR it might not. i know of cases where women have conceived while on the pill, on an IUD even, and right after they've gone off the pill. i've also known of women for whom its taken 6 months to a year to conceive- it all comes down to YOUR BODY. there is no general rule here that applies to everyone.
so my advice is: do what is right for YOU for RIGHT NOW (and in the days leading up to your marriage), and when you are married and more comfortable communicating with your husband, you can bring it up with him. yes, husbands have a right to decide when they have children, but the reality is that YOU are the one most of the changes will happen to physically, emotionally, and career-wise, so i do believe YOU are the one to make the call right now. because if you're not ready and you get pregnant, you will be unhappy and consequently, will make your husband and future kids unhappy also.
Re: did you girls take any pills/etc before your wedding days???
nadz, book an appointment with ur doc about 2-3 months prior to getting married and see what they can recommend.
Even if u dont, im pretty sure that one of ur desi aunties will recommend something a month before getting married. Whatever they say, dont take their advice.. speak to a proper doc and get the right information.
I did discuss things with my hubs to be and we decided on what we thought is best, but if ur not comfortable with the fiance just yet, then go speak to a doc and as someone said, speak to the guy once ur married. Make sure u include him in the decision process once u r comfortable
