Yeah why was it ?
Guys how did like being “nikkahed” and not having access to the u know…
Its like having licence to drive but no access to car.
That is a such a good question PM.
I'm in med school rite now, and we plan on to do the nikkah in the late spring/ summer, but the wedding later after I'm done with school. I would really like to people's opinion on this matter.
Re: Did some "NOT" live together after marriage?
I remember my brother saying that(with sad face) its like you have a licence but you cant drive.
lolzzzz
I thought that after nikkah, you're married and can do anything you want to do; you're just not living together.
It depends, most desi parents do not allow the couple to meet alone. and some desi parents are horrified that the girl might get pregnant. and what will ppl say. Islamically the guy and the girl can be together, live and behave completely as man and wife.
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heheh
you kidding me???? Girls parent would kill you for doing some thing to their daughter.
My brother use to play so many trick to get his "mankoha" out of the hose to be with him.
As a matter of fact they use to get more time together before nikkah when they were sneaking.
It depends, most desi parents do not allow the couple to meet alone. and some desi parents are horrified that the girl might get pregnant. and what will ppl say. Islamically the guy and the girl can be together, live and behave completely as man and wife.
Its not a "DESI" thing its "MUSLIM" thing!!
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Islamically, all you need is a Nikah and Walima...actually I believe Walima is Sunnah. Not sure, will find out.
Anyway, Im going to be in that boat myself in a couple of weeks I think. I dont know how it would feel actually. Im sure he would be a bit impatient and it would certainly make going out a whole lot easier too. But how would he handle that type of separation? Ive got a ton of things to keep me busy but he goes to work and comes home. He has dinner and goes to the gym really late night but thats it.
You can do anything you want to after Nikah but Im a bit of a romantic I guess? I want to have my rukhsati and Walimah first.
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There was a period of six months between nikah and rukhsati for us. Initially my parents were like any other desi parents and wary of us going out. But slowly, we were allowed to go out and we would go for walks, or lunches etc. In our minds, it made us feel more comfortable with each other in the sense that what we were doing (going out or talking on the phone) was halal.
Its not a "DESI" thing its "MUSLIM" thing!!
sorry PM but in my experience its only been the desi parents who have this block... most arabs, and other cultures allow the girl and guy to be alone after the nikah. Infact in some cultures the nikah is called the engagement so the couple can go out on dates and be unchaperoned.
sorry PM but in my experience its only been the desi parents who have this block... most arabs, and other cultures allow the girl and guy to be alone after the nikah. Infact in some cultures the nikah is called the engagement so the couple can go out on dates and be unchaperoned.
well my experience with afghan/arabs are different. Not much different then ours.
Islamically, all you need is a Nikah and Walima...actually I believe Walima is Sunnah. Not sure, will find out.
Anyway, Im going to be in that boat myself in a couple of weeks I think. I dont know how it would feel actually. Im sure he would be a bit impatient and it would certainly make going out a whole lot easier too. But how would he handle that type of separation? Ive got a ton of things to keep me busy but he goes to work and comes home. He has dinner and goes to the gym really late night but thats it.
You can do anything you want to after Nikah but Im a bit of a romantic I guess? I want to have my rukhsati and Walimah first.
Yeah i agree with you on the romantic part.
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“guys how is it having a Nikkah done, and not getting laid”
WHat is suhaag raath?
If i tell you, i would get warning points
If i tell you, i would get warning points
???
Just tell me
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Suhaag raat is the wedding night...nothing wrong with that.
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Overall though, I know there are quite a few couples on GS that are nikah-fied and dont live together because of whatever reason: still in school, working abroad, planning the reception, immigration, etc.
I wonder how they deal with the separation?
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Also, I dont think its a physical issue...it has to do with companionship and being ready for that life now. Once you're married, you feel like this stage of your life should start already. But then, it doesnt...
Overall though, I know there are quite a few couples on GS that are nikah-fied and dont live together because of whatever reason: still in school, working abroad, planning the reception, immigration, etc.
I wonder how they deal with the separation?
I always wonder, we as a nation don't talk about hardships objectively at all.
Its all comes down to allah's will. OR wazifa to get out of it.
We rarely talk about fighting back and kicking Butt and stuff.
I wonder why ??
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Its because we're so used to thinking that Allah swt is going to send a miracle our way and we have to pray to get it. Of course we pray but then we also have to actively do something about it too. In this case, maybe web chatting, meeting each other, phone calls, etc.