Destined to be alone forever..

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I think I’m destined to be alone forever, I had somebody but stuff happened and now I find myself unable to fall for anyone again.I really think I can never find anyone like her again, who would love me like that, who I would share so much in common with.Everyday seems like a stuggle without her and my life feels meaningless.I’m out of school now and working and I’m not even sure how to find somebody new, how to meet that special someone again. I need somebody in my life that I can truly call mine and pamper her and care for her, it motivates me to strive for something. I neglected a lot of aspects of my life while I was with her, became anti-social and the few friends I have left are all I have. I just had her and now I don’t any more, now I have nothing. I really feel alone now,addicted to her with nothing to substitute it with, nothing to distract me other than work.I suffer from bouts of manic depression, happy one moment, and wanting to slit my throat the next second.It’s taking a toll, and even though I’m young, I’m starting to feel desperate.I’m scared I’m just never going to be able to love anyone again because all I think about is her and before I know it, I’m going to be 30 and single. I think I’ve hit a quarter-life crisis.

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Sorry to hear that. That's why they say never make someone your everything, because God forbid they're not there anymore, you have nothing left to live for.

I think Im destined to be alone forever as well, but not for the same reason as yours. Time teaches you not to be so foolish. :)

Hope you get it over it (her?) sooner or later.

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^^my take on the issue is a bit different. I think it's perfectly fine if you make someone your everything because even if you lose him/her you can survive w/o that person. You just need to get up enough strength but you'll survive.

But I would be perfectly fine with the idea of being somebody's everything and that person being my everything......what a romantic thought :)

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go back to school...?

:/

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find something productive to do in ur life. Life not always revolve around relationships. Or just simply ask ur parents to hook u up then u can pamper her all u want :D

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. very thought full for a guy.

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Sabriya786:Yeah I was young and I realised I shouldn't but reluctantly I got sucked into it and now I can't seem to get out of it.That's exactly what happened, she's gone now and I have nothing left to live for.I've lost interest in all material possessions,it just serves no purpose anymore. Makes me feel an incy wincy better knowing there's someone out there who feels the same way.I hope it's not true in your case either but I know the feeling, it's difficult to shake it off.At least you seem happy and content with your life.I can't say the same about mine right now though.

Indo-pak:Easier said than done.Yes in theory it's the most romantic thought out there, guess that's what got me too.But the latter is not true.Once you experience something like it, you'd prefer Chinese torture compared to it.It's mind numbingly hard to survive without that person if they were in your mind, body and soul.

Aishaaa 2.1: I wish I could.But I graduated a while back and need to work for a few years to progress towards my career goals.So I'm stuck here for the next 3 years at least.And it's funny, I was talking to a co-worker about it, the industry I'm in, they say if you don't meet somebody by the end of college, you're pretty much destined to be single for the next 5 years of your life after you start work. Sad, but I'm realising day after day that it's true.

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I can't even find myself being creative anymore. People told me I was a funny guy who could make anybody laugh, but I'm just not that kind of guy anymore.

Haha, asking parents to hook me up. Yeah no self-respecting man would ever do that, and I have way too much self-respect to resort to something like that.I'd rather be alone and desperate.

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Happy and content? Ha! Far from it. You learn to live... cope. Thats all you really can do. I totally made someone my everything, and unlike you, he no longer is in this world... believe me, you still have it easy. There's always chances of seeing each other again... for me, all I have is memories... its really tough, and everyday is a challenge... but you have to tough it out. Add to that I was forced into a marriage about a month after his death... the pain at that time was more than unbearable I cant even begin to explain to you... life can be tricky sometimes, but remember... God doesnt give to us a burden bigger than that which we can bear. Resort to prayer and meditation, it helps alot otherwise youll end up crazy. I wish you luck.. and I wish you love, if not now, but definitely later in life. No one should have to go through this thing called life, alone.

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wats sooo bad about asking ur parents?

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sad stories :(

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Why not make a serious attempt to make things up?

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yea man wats soo not self respecting about asking your parents to help you find you a girl? Half of our paki bros get married like that and there is nothing wrong with it. At least u wont get hurt :)

what do u teach???
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if u really cant imagine a life without her...go back to her!

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^^exactly go marry her!

honestly, it's not the end of the world.. ppl come/go in your life.. you learn to live with/without them.

Last but not least, let your parents choose your life partner and you will forget the other girl the minute you would see her all dolled up as your bride. Trust me!

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No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Rony dude get out, breath some fresh air. Go to some wilderness hike, look around. Breath again, till you don't any thing in brain but freshness.
Come back and start doing life again.

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No One who believes in Allah Subhanahu wa Taala is *EVER alone..........*NEVER

What you percieve as loss is still a Mortal Human..........they could have died...........and then .......what would you have done!

Important thing to remember is not to despair............

Allah is always with you.........and Allah controls the hearts of all people...

No human can help you in this situation......not EVEN the object of your effections!

**You need go back to the *SOURCE of ALL.....*
LOVE......... and LIFE*.......*
With conviction that you can recieve from Allah only what you can not from Mortal Humans.........................

Devil Worshippers
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yeah please tell her abt ur feelings.. this is such a rare thing to happen..

dont just let it go like that..

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Forget her.

The Following is a letter written to Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Ra) from a man Suffering from Love Sickness and seeking Advice.

FROM ONE MADLY IN LOVE:

Letter 1)

  • I am Madly in love with a certain woman. I desire to rid my heart of this unlawful feeling but I find myself helpless in this regard. Both my deen and duniya are suffering its consequences, Hazrat please help.

Reply 1) from Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Ra)

  • Leave the company of the beloved one immediately. This separation should be both Physical and intellectual.

  • Physical seperation entails that you do not converse with her, nor do you allow her to converse with you. Do not look at her, do not allow anyone, to discuss her in your presence, nor should you ever discuss her before anyone.

  • Mental separation entails that you do not deliberately entertain or introduce
    any thoughts about her in the mind. Involuntarily if her thought or image flashes in your mind engage yourself in some diversionary activity at once.

  • Make dua to Allah abundantly for assistance.

  • Constantly engage in Zikr of Allah no matter how routine or mechanical it appears.

  • Thereafter inform me of your progress.

Letter 2) ....From The One Madly In Love:

  • Allah be praised! I already am beginning to feel a decrease in my sentiments for her.

Reply from Hazrat Thanvi (RA)

  • Insha'Allah, you will make further progress. Continue with the prescription.

Letter 3) .....From the one Madly in Love.

  • Love for her has almost diminished completely from my heart. Whenever her thought comes to my mind, a slight pang is experienced in the heart. Hazrat is requested to make dua that Allah removes all traces from my heart.

Reply Of Hazrat Thanvi (Ra)

  • The remedy is the same as before. Adopt total separation under all circumstances; all emotions will disappear. If any inclination appears thereafter, do not be concerned about it, for this is harmless.
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Can someone else see through the red and bold lines of this post. How can someone be so depressed and not interested in worldly possessions then talking about a three year career building plan ? What up with that contradiction.
If someone is not interested in worldly possessions should he not be sitting in a corner and praying to Allah(SW) and seeking his help and mercy ? Instead of being busy in career making that too with a three year plan.
I am confused. Human mind and actions never ceases to amaze me.
Someone please explain to me.