Re: desperatly confused newly wed
somegroovychic
right on the mark. If you have to 'make' someone change, then its probably something that should nto have gone thru anyways. people adjust, and all to accomodate each other but going in the marriage expecting that u will change soemone for it to be a successful marriage that is a little naive.
if there are issues that are big nuff that u dont want your significant doing someothing or you want them to do something, ask beforehand. whetgher its soime dude who wants his wife to start wearing hijab after marriage or some lady who wants her husband to give up smoking or drinking.