Re: desperatly confused newly wed
yeah but that change happens voluntarily... i was referring to those people who seem to think its their job to change their partners into what they want. you can't just change people to suit your preferences- thats selfish- you love them for who they are. accommodating each other isn't the same thing as being forced to accommodate to make your partner happy.
as for women who change after marriage, i can see that happening if you're really young when you get married and don't quite know yourself who you are or what you want, or how you were raised, but at my age, the only change happening is because i want to change, not because my husband is telling me to. and a lot of times, it isn't change that is required but compromise.