Re: desperatly confused newly wed
i think if you feel the need to change someone after you've married them, you probably shouldn't have married them in the first place.
for example, its one thing to tell your hubby to pick up his socks, or for him to grow and mature in his own time, in his own way.... and a whole another thing to change the dynamics of his personality and the way he handles relationships with his family, to suit your needs.