desperatly confused newly wed

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Re: desperatly confused newly wed

@kaun

some responses are and some :nono: but well girl all i will say is that being a girl i know it is kinda tough at times to standup in front of ur parents but thinking of goin to the embassy now is a bad idea as u could have done this b4 the marriage aswell and it was a simple case of forced marriage where the embassy would have easily gotten u out of and sent u back to britain, it wouldnt have effected the guys family but if u do it now it is 2 families getting ruined so u gotta think bout this.

you know the whole thing about oh it effects 2 families stuff is way blown out of proportion, I have cousins who have had divorces, and friends who have had divorces, in the long run, it does not effect anyone.

lets just say if someone is in a bad marriage ..or miserable in a marriage, and ends it and due to that every single person has some amount of distress. it in no way shape or form can ever come close to the distress that the person in the marriage will feel having to stick it out and be miserable for the rest of their lives.

At the end of the day, anyone has a right to end their marriage, and if people are going to force one to be in a situation where one is miserable, then one has a complete right to do whatever it takes to get out.

Lets be realistic here, in the end, its your life. Not your parents, siblings, spouse, inlaws or anyone else.

would anyone stay in a job where they are unhappy but will not resign and go find a new job because they feel that their boss and colleagues would be hurt. sounds pretty illogical doesn’t it? well so it staying in a marriage for the sake of others..only exception potentially is kids, but even in that case I think many ppl who are together just for teh kids are probably better off splittign because why put kids thru a bad domestic atmosphere..