Re: desperatly confused newly wed
Having physical attraction is very important factor in having sex. While there are some things that cannot be changed like his facial features, however there are things that he can do to make himself more presentable. Have a very open talk with him and suggest that he needs a makeover. He can dress better, get some grooming done, shave everywhere, shower, use deodorant, get a different hair cut that fits him etc etc. If he is fat then he can diet and exercise that will take some time. But makeover would be a good start.
You can also turn off the lights or think of someone very attractive while you guys do it.
Good luck and hope it works out for you. But please give it a chance and don't run away. Seperation should be the very last resort and should be done in a civilized manner.