Desis with Goris. (inter-racial dating)

okay i live in ireland, we dont have many desis here. my parents are like pretty hardcore muslims. however i do go out with white chicks etc (actually i ONLY go out with white chicks, never gone out with a desi… no racist… i just havent come across one that i like) parents dont know about it (i dont live at home unless im off college, i live on campus), i dont have an “exlusive” gf right now, but last chick i was dating (and still sorta hook up with) had an ex who was indian, so there are desis (specially indians) who do land white girls, but im wondering if its common?

okay now over here you dont see many desis with gori gf’s (and actually most desis here dont have ANY gfs, most of em dont have any sorta game, shy guys etc, specially pakistani desis), and those who are with goris, are usually with those eastern euro ones like ones who are in the game for the euro passport, and they’re usually married to them.

now im wondering if this is the same everywhere? is it different in america? are there alotta desi/gori couples? (i know its different in the UK, most desis over there usually go out with desis not goris cause theres a higher saturation of desis)

and how is it seen in the society? do you know any desis who have married goris?

now im all for messing around in my young years, but i dont think i’d ever marry a gori, i dont know EXACTLY why, but… (im not a “player”, but most goris i come across tend to be “bar trash” even the ones who are sorta supposed to be “classy” this chick who i was with whos a vet medicine student, had a future etc but she cheated on her ex, and then was with me for a while, then went back to him lol, and now wants to get back with me AGAIN lol)

bottom line.

are desi women more loyal than goris? (we’ll have to genralise and stereotype a little here folks, but whats your opinion?)

if you married a gori/gora, would you take him/her with you to visit pakistan to introduce to your extended family? (LOL this is a big no no for me, not happening, one of the reasons that would put me off from marrying a gori)

do you think your family would support you if you married a gori/gora? (mine probably will be disappointed and stuff, and will discourage me ALOT and try to change my mind i if i tried marrying a gori but i dont think they will care all that much after a while)

if you date goris/goras/desi girls do your parents know about it? what do they think? or do you hide it?

okay dont mean to offend anyone with this thread, i know its a little liberal (even though im politically conservative…) but i wanna hear some input :slight_smile:

thanks guys

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these days desi girls are making a statement by marrying whities. its just they are trying to catch up with desi boys :)

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LOL serious? i havent really heard of any desis marrying a gora (although romour has it that this chick my cousin married (a desi american chick), is now with a black dude back in america :/, the marriage fell appart, and my cousin then married a paki chick, he himself is a paki living in pakistan tho. its only a roumer though, i can fathom desi chick and gora.... but kala? LOL)

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lol...i've NOT heard any marriage of any desi chick to a black or hispanic or oriental as of yet. its mostly between desi chicks marrying goras. there is a lot of opposition in the girl's families basically because of religion but then girls are smart they convince the goras to accept islam in a masjid in order to effectively shut their parents up**

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there are a lot of desi/white dating...marriages going on...

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i lol'd at the last part, as i read your reply i was like okay hes saying "desi"... it could mean indian or something but then i read the muslim part and lost it LMAO.

its concieveable though, a desi chick marrying a black dude, theres alotta like immigrant (2nd gen) muslim blacks (dudes from morocco, libya, sudan come to mind)

i know a girl over here in ireland whos desi (born here) and dates white guys (just short term kinda dating nothing serious) but she has like the same view as me, she wouldnt marry a gora, shes waiting to find a paki guy (but she doesnt want someone FOB, where as i'd rather go with someone FOB or a direct import from pakistan, unless the wilaiyati was super religious)

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right...but one case stands out on its own. one of my cousin is a Hijabi. she lived back home all her life. she came to UK and voila! she married a white guy! she stunned us all. she was the last person i wud have thought to marry a white guy lol**

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yeah i know but i mean, i wanna know what the impact is.... i know a dude here (well i dont know him personally, but i've FB stalked him) and he has a gori eastern euro wife (whos FOB just like him), and after they got married, he took her to pakistan etc to meet his family, theres photos of them up on FB of all them looking pretty jolly.

now this dude is a nice guy, does alot for charity etc etc, probably is religious (i dont know), i dont know if the chick converted either. but is this normal? I really highly doubt my parents/extended family would be that jolly if i married a white chick and bought her to pakistan

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this is the kinda thing im talking about... im not exposed to the "Desi" community elsewhere very well so i came over to this forum. i mean this stuff actually happens? lol. how did the family react bro?

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:rotfl: stop stalking guys!!!

well…I know a lot of goris who are with Paki guys…and most of them do convert..coz they really love the guy..and what is the big deal…if Paki guys can marry Indians, Sri Lankans, etc…why not goris?

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okay im pretty stumped at what ever is boleded :O, so we've figured that stuff like this happens, but what happens after? what are the consequences?

italics: well i guess this is more common since its been happening in older generations as well, im sure concequences back then for those men would have been pretty savage, would they still be the same for men in this generation?

Underline: okay now in ireland theres a VERY small desi community, most desis here are doctors (about 60% of all irish doctors are actually DESI), so we do it big here in the healthcare business. (hospital where my dad is a doc his department is 100% desi, 3 pakis, 1 indian), having said that i dont plan to have a family in ireland (i'll probably move to america after medschool), and over there, if, and this is a big big IF, i marry lets say an american or even an irish chick, i plan to keep my kids well away from the desi culture. i dont really have any desi friends who are my "true friends" sure i know alotta desis in college, and do socialise with them but im not really close with them, im closer with the goras.

but if i marry a desi, im probably gonna be in with the desi community, i dont know if you get the logic. meh.

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desi emn have always been marrying goris but the reverse trend is new to us. it'll take a while to be acceptable...i think if gora genuinely converts for the sake of deen and not the girl then it should and it must be accepted. the conversion must be for the right reasons though

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okay so what kinda “goris” are we talking about? are these “classy” like medschool/MBA/JD type? or bar trash? and what kinda paki guys are they? are they sponging off their parents or do they have something going for them?, and are those “goris” loyal and stuff? (i know alotta goris who are loyal as hell, i even know hardcore catholic ones, AKA no sex before marriage etc, but that type is hard to come by)

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i really wanna know what the consequence of the bolded part is.

are these couples active within the traditional desi community? or are they active in the more "liberal" community?, how do they raise their kids etc?

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These guys stand on their own feet, and the girls are very loyal..as for education and stuff I dnt know....but they are not bar trash either!!!! Now dnt ask about their sex life..that is none of my beeswax!!!

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I love my religion and love to be with someone who atleast respects my beliefs. and i think my parents wont mind me marrying gora but i am not into them (well i never even try to get attention of pakistanis as well.) but i like to be with pakistani guy. and i dont mind showing anyone my pind where i have been only for couple of months of my life. though people of my area aint less than goraz when it comes to generosity and kind heartedness (which means they are cold hearted) but still one should not be ashamed of their roots. i am sure the one i will marry also dont belong to Utopia. (if he is, then why did he bother marrying me :silly:)

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lets say you found the closest thing to perfection, and the guy is a gora, you love him etc etc, and want to marry him, will your parents support you?, or are you on your own if you decide to go down that road? :O

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If you the two are happy, they enjoy each others company and see their future together who cares about skin color? We really need to get beyond the mentality that skin color matters.

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