Re: DESIS who think we are snotty lazy westerners?
Ok well I am going to give my views and experiences on my visits to pakistan and the visits from the family to UK.
When i went pakistan I do admit I got the royalty treament from the family back there and I really do appreciate the hospitality however when the same relatives came here, myself, my parents, sibling and generally all the relatives that are here in UK went totally out of their way. Everyone took time off from work considering it is not always easy getting time off especially at the last minute but we still all managed to somehow.
In our house there was always someone coming or going, taking them out where ever they wished to go, got all their shopping done for them, my family and relatives here did not let them pay a penny for anything, i cant think of anything they did not do or get.
However when these so-called rishtaydar went back to pakistan, they said the opposite to the rest of the family, how they had an awful time, how we didnt care for them enough, I was bog smacked, i have never heard such lies in my life. We had done so much for them and no appreciation, i mean forget appreciation, they bad mouthed everyone.
When we go to pakistan, myself and my family cook and clean for ourselves eventhough we do have people their to do everything for us.We just dont feel that anyone should do our work when we are totally capable of doing it ourself, we dont have servants here and we do everything ourself then why cant we do the same there.
When we go pakistan, we go to my dads house and my mum does everything cooking etc only thing she dont do is the cleaning in which she gets help from the servants. However our relatives come to visit us at our own house and we give them as much hospitaly as they do to us but the only difference is that we dont take the advantage of being treated good and then go behind their backs and say how bad or rubbish we were treated.
I am sorry to say and I am not generalising or anything because i know theres good and bad everywhere whether its UK Usa or Pakistan, but from my experience with people from Pakistan, what you see is not what you get. Ofcourse not everyone is able to afford to come and visit us here and i am not talking about people that cannot afford, i am talking about people in pakistan who are very well off and settled and can afford. Like when i went pakistan, my parents hired a mini bus so that we could visit all the places we wanted to go see and site seeing and also that we could take the relatives who already live there with us so they can also have a good time with us (at our expence by the way) we did not have to take them along with us but they insisted on coming (which we didnt say no to because we are not that rude). So as far as hospitality goes, us "westerners" do not do any less then people in pakistan (and i am putting this very politely, you dont wanna hear the worst of what pakistani people are capable of, again this is from my own experience, not one experience but quite a few).
Yes nadz may have generalised from her experience of what happened to her when she went but that does not mean that she thinks that way about everyone and im sure when she goes next time and stays else where, she might have a totally different experience which may change her views. Now come and slaughter me because i put my views across
