I dont agree with you exactly. When ever our cousins & family come from any where, most people from the bigg family take days off to cater to their needs and attend them. People here do not even have enough money to fulfill their own needs even then they are superbly hospitable to their relatives abroad. What i have seen in my family, everyone is drooling over the family that comes over. They are automatically tagged as people who are “cool” so are given a royal treatment. Name the food you get it, name the place you want to go we will take you, name the thing you want to do we will do it whetever our means allow it or not. Not just my own family, but many others as well attend to the family abroad out of the box.
Many cousins probably want to wake you guys up so that they can have fun with you all. Some may as well find you lazy but its not fair to generalize it. As for nanas dadas doing it, i am sorry but i dont see that they distinguish between my “desi family” and my “abroad family”. My nana would try and wake us up as early as possible. That has nothign at all to do with you comign from abroad.
Also, please do not generalize your comments. Not every Pakistani sleeps twice a day. Majority of the people i am working with and studying with are at their work place or university till later in the evening, they do not get a chance to sleep. What i have noticed is that house wives go to sleep in the afternoon because they get up early to dress up their kids for school & attend to their husbands before they go to work. Due to this lack of sleep, they often dose off. That does not mean people in pakistan have some “extra priviledges”.
As for comparison, this forum itself proves it all. I have found soo many threads based on the fact that desis are paindu, desis are FOBs, desi girls are flirts, desis marry for money, desis are crazy after green cards, desis this desis that! On the other hand, you would find very few threads based on comparison or pin pointing or criticism of lifestyle of our families migrated abroad. None of us complain that our cousins come and make faces on everything - food is unhygienic,people’s paindoo dressing, backwardness, conservativeness, etc.
Its just a matter of understanding the other’s point of view, which seems to be lacking here.