I wanted to ask if you dress your children up in designer clothes.
There are some snobs in the family they may have to work 24/7 but they are obsessed with putting designers clothes on their kid’s.
I treat my kid to designer boots or a jacket if i manage to get it in the sale on his birthday other than that he wers high street brands.
But the thing is sometimes I feel I don’t want my kid to lose out or be looked down at in the family as he’s not wearing as expensive clothes as the rest, and not that I can afford it nways.
What are your thoughts.
where do u live mrsshy? OK i don't let my kids fall in this trap. when they r small it really doesn't matter plus they over grow their clothes so fast that its a waste of money.
my son was"i like nike or puma shoes" my hubby n i said" buy them when u earn on ur own" we debate how these shoes walk or run any better than other shoes.
now either tell ur kids ur views on brands or join the cat race. ur other option is to get gr8 deals on brands.
for my kids i buy if i like something. tons of times i have been to Tommy Hilfiger n come out as i liked nothing even if its on sale. or Gymboree never even once i bought anything from there. just not my taste.
another thing when u go after brands everyone ends up wearing same stuff. unless u live in a city where there r endless brands.
i think ur kids should feel pretty n confident in anything they wear so pick unique n classy pieces rather than just a name.
he won't lose out or be looked down on if you don't think that way.
does he know you 'treat' him to designer stuff on his bday etc? that's like affirming to him that what he usually gets isn't as good.
if you buy designer, buy it because it's a nice piece or because of the quality, not the name. in fact i probably wouldn't buy anything with a prominent logo. hopefully your child will grow to understand that the reason you have bought what you have bought isn't because of the brand and that there are more important considerations.
just don't even make it an issue. make him feel comfortable and confident regardless of what he's wearing. if other parents are looking down on what you dress him in, that's really sad. and it's even more sad if they have taught their kids to do the same.
I think the idea of discussing how the name brand may perform better than the generic or less popular brand is great......except the marketing gurus are way ahead in making noise about how one product is better than its competition because of this, that or the other.
I've made a point of not purchasing name brand clothing for my daughter for two reasons:
I don't want her to grow up thinking that this should be her way of life and,
I want to use the money that we save to provide other experiences that will enrich her life far more than Tommy Hilfiger ever can. LOL.
i'd easily spend money on my child if there was a pretty party dress or some other special occasion outfit they needed or that i wanted them to have, and if i had the expendable cash- but i wouldn't tell them or anyone else that it was a designer label and because of that its special and necessary. i'd just say its a pretty dress and i've bought it for you for xyz occasion/reason and i hope you like it.
making your kids aware of labels is complicating the issue unnecessarily. and yes, they will learn about labels through media and peers, but when they question you about it, you can say "oh such and such dress of yours is a designer/label dress but see how it isn't any more special just because it is? its like any other pretty dress you own."
i think if you devalue it in your own home, there's nothing special in it for your kids and nothing to covet.
see mrsshy so many don’t go after only brand names n the thing is its a never ending race. i know a friend’s son,teenage Highschool going kid, who only buys from Amrican Eagles n Altitude…expensive brands here . i said to her its coz only u let him and his dad can afford. this same kid would see his baby pix n seeing less expensive brands like sears, bay say to his mom that she dressed her in such cheap clothes
i think when kids talk abt friends wearing brands n expensive stuff we should show them some documentaries on kids in third world countries or take a trip to pak’s remote areas. Only once we realize wat Allah has awarded us with we can’t ever be contended n thankful.
Yeah I agree with you, but you need to consider kid's who go to school and can be outcircled in social groups if they are not wearing a certain brand which can lead to bullying, there are so many factors to consider. I don't agree with it but UK and US schools can be pretty hard, you either fit in or don't.
I think there's got to be a fair balance. And ££$$$€€ is the main factor. Some parents that can afford to may just buy their kids designers all the time and the rest need to balance it, and yes always thank Allah and make them aware how hard mummy and daddy need to work for this.
then u need to change ur kid's school may be. Send to a school with uniform. actually its all in head. unless u r wearing tasteless, shabby clothes nobody can bully you just for not wearing brands. thats silly. bullying can be handled as well.
I LOVE my little guy, the youngest. Getting ready for swim class, my boys were putting on their bathing suits. Eldest puts on his "superman" suit and yells "Hey! I'm SUPERMAN!". Youngest puts on his (wal-mart nondescript bathing trunks and yells "I'm WAL-MART!!!"
Yeah I agree with you, but you need to consider kid's who go to school and can be outcircled in social groups if they are not wearing a certain brand which can lead to bullying, there are so many factors to consider. I don't agree with it but UK and US schools can be pretty hard, you either fit in or don't.
I think there's got to be a fair balance. And ££$$$€€ is the main factor. Some parents that can afford to may just buy their kids designers all the time and the rest need to balance it, and yes always thank Allah and make them aware how hard mummy and daddy need to work for this.
It's only an issue if you make it one.
Instead of buying into the hype and using it as a way to legitimize displaying name brands, I recommend parents actually talk to kids about how to handle those people who are overly brand conscious and use it to judge people. Those people exist at every age, and, frankly, it's best to learn early that there is no point in trying to compete with them or please them.
I've grown up in the US. No where have I met more brand name conscious people than those from Pakistan and the Middle East.
u'd be surprised at the amount of people who have such messed up priorities.
My father provided us a comfortable lifestyle now that I think about it, but i dont remember being so obsessed with brands (that came later :D) but only because we had to wear school uniforms. One of the reasons of uniforms was to cut down on this type of envy and ostracization of others. and after a certain age it became more about finding clothes to cover properly than brands.
I've grown up in the US. No where have I met more brand name conscious people than those from Pakistan and the Middle East.
i couldn't agree more. i grew up partly in pakistan, mostly in the middle east and the obsession some people over there have with labels is ridiculous. people are definitely more aware of how to use a label as a status symbol. and more often than not, it ties into wanting to be more "white", whatever that means. the funny part is, most of the white people i know don't care about brands and even if they do, recognize that they might not be able to afford them and that's ok.
