Brown Sahibs like you piss me off, dhobi ka kutta na ghar ka na ghat ka.
Har qaum ke apne apne dastoor/rawaaj hotay hein, what’s considered common courtesy/manners in one culture may not necessarily be in another.
Opening doors is ok but getting up coz a woman comes into the room or walking her up to the car.. I tell you, you Fob’s go a tad bit too far and trust me it looks stupid.
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*Originally posted by PyariCgudia: *
walking a girl to the door is not indicative of her weakness and a man's protective nature or anything like that. its just flat out sweet to accompany your sweetheart to her car. why can't things be done out of just sweetness?
no feminazi rules against sweetness.
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Exactly. sigh I don't do the whole 'come over and let me serve you chai' when I meet rishtas. I meet them one on one at a coffee shop. Maybe it's just me (well it seems like it from this thread) but I find it rude if they don't at least offer to walk me to my car afterwards. I find it really sweet, considerate and respectful if they do. Like I said, it's just me. :p
Khair, acting like an ogre, both guys and girls, won't win you any points. "Equality" has nothing to do with it. Just cause it's acceptable for a guy to cuss like a sailor in the presence of his buddies doesn't mean that I will tolerate it.
i know some guys who are pretty cool. this one guy i know he wouldn’t ever let me pay for my food when we would hang out–there would be a huge argument bout that— and he’d open doors for me and all that kind of stuff…doesn’t mean he likes me or anything (unforutnatley 
) …as for the opening doors, men arent supposed to do it for just women…i open teh doors for everyone, just like i’d expect someone to open teh door for me, woman or man.
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*Originally posted by lastknightess: *
I walk everyone to their cars..men women and children
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children should not be driving. you should not be ecnouraging them.
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*Originally posted by MehnazQ: *
but I find it rude if they don't at least offer to walk me to my car afterwards. I find it really sweet, considerate and respectful if they do. Like I said, it's just me. :p
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do u offer to walk them to their car? :) I mean why not offer to walk them to their car and then them dropping u at yours :)
a bullet hurts a guy just as much as it does a girl,so does a baseball bat or a lead pipe on the back of the head.
i wholeheartedly agree. Actually, I'm so courteous I invite the girl back to my place.
ooh and abt being jumped in the dark and having a male escort u...y dont u girls get into some self-defence classes..dont u girls wanna be independent hunh? yeh so much for that...
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*Originally posted by Fraudz: *
do u offer to walk them to their car? :) I mean why not offer to walk them to their car and then them dropping u at yours :)
a bullet hurts a guy just as much as it does a girl,so does a baseball bat or a lead pipe on the back of the head.
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Nah, it's usually the other way around. Those that actually do offer to walk me to my car insist on it and then I'll insist on driving them back to theirs. They'll sometimes do their, "no no" nakhray but they give in and I'll just drive them back anyway. You don't have to be interested romantically ... it's just sweet. :p
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*Originally posted by Fraudz: *
children should not be driving. you should not be ecnouraging them.
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Well their drivers come to pick em up...but I rather take em out myself rather than the poor driver look for a place to park and get out and walk to my door. :)
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*Originally posted by lussi: *
i wholeheartedly agree. Actually, I'm so courteous I invite the girl back to my place.
ooh and abt being jumped in the dark and having a male escort u...y dont u girls get into some self-defence classes..dont u girls wanna be independent hunh? yeh so much for that...
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Lussi I have attended self defence classes and I pump iron too...:p
most pakistani guys i know have always walked the girls to their cars (or train stations) 
maybe its an aussie thing.. i dunno
i dont think im very uptight when talking to a guy.. i prob get a lil bit shy but its not tooo apparent. I think if you can make it thru the first awful 30 seconds then u’ve done well :k:
Ur right though Fayz, some desi guys dont know how to talk to a desi gal but thats prob due to their upbringing or no interaction with females in the first place.. i personally dont expect a guy to walk me to my car watever.. but its nice when its done…
boys in my family (backhome) have always opened doors, gotten up and walked us to wherever.. its not manners, its just the way they’ve been raised.. or moreso what they expect from each other
Lekin, i dont see many gore guys walking gals to their cars or calling cabs.. with them its like “cya mate… have a good one!” and by the time they’ve finished their sentence.. they’re 20meters away
Hear hear! :k:
We should just clone you. 
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*Originally posted by Naadir: *
Brown Sahibs like you piss me off, dhobi ka kutta na ghar ka na ghat ka.
Har qaum ke apne apne dastoor/rawaaj hotay hein, what’s considered common courtesy/manners in one culture may not necessarily be in another.
Opening doors is ok but getting up coz a woman comes into the room or walking her up to the car.. I tell you, you Fob’s go a tad bit too far and trust me it looks stupid.
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Naadir bhai, it is ok to treat women with respect. If you see a woman standing in the bus leave your seat for her. If you go to your friend's house and her mom comes to meet you..you better stand your arse up.
Courtesy is global..it has nothing much to do with culture or fobness. Next time you open your car's door for your mom..don't feel like a dhobi ka kuta..she will appreciate your gesture.
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Lussi I have attended self defence classes and I pump iron too...
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Hahahahahhaha.
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*Originally posted by lastknightess: *
Well their drivers come to pick em up...but I rather take em out myself rather than the poor driver look for a place to park and get out and walk to my door. :)
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what are children coming to see you for anyways..michael
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i wholeheartedly agree. Actually, I'm so courteous I invite the girl back to my place.
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and make sure that they leave after its light out right, dude you are a true gentlemen. :) you rock and stuff
I take it chivalry really is dead.
Nobody gets up when a woman enters a room at work. If I do, it'll seem very out of place. I don't know about you, but lot of desi women I know don't expect men to get up. Walking to the car during dark is common sense. As regards opening doors, I open doors for both males/females and they do the same for me. My ex-boss (woman white) on occassion opened doors for me, and it means nothing.
In my youth I used to work in a retail store and still had this "respect for women" cultural programming in my head. In this retail franchise we had to lift and move heavy objects. Out of "respect" for this woman, I'd never let her lift and move anything heavy while I was in the vicinity. That really annoyed her to the point she actually told the boss that this pr**k doesn't let me do my job! So you see Mehnaz pragmatism de-programmed any "desi chivalry" I had in me. :D
why on earth do I bother? why oh why?
Sorry. :) May add comments at a later stage.