Re: Desi shaadi
Girls will be hesitant because of judgmental double standards and howthey will be perceived so it is important to give an indicator of interest thatyou are the Prince Charming/Raj kumar of their dreams. The person she has been waiting for. And ofcourse to let them know you are open minded and nonjudgemental. This is best done when standing in a never ending queuewaiting for food. Ideally you would be lined behind the girl you are interestedin and with one other friend with you. Then you would casually have arandom conversation along the lines of “do you think weddings are a good place tofind a jeevan saathi?” and with you responding “pata nahi. yahanbahut log hain but shayad nazar ek larki pe tiki pe hui hai..jiska mann uske chehra ki tara sundar hai and jo itni talented hai.. or maybe somethingless tacky/cliché” This would only be loud enough for you and the girl tohear. At this moment you would be at the part of the line where food is beingserved and you can give a side glance for the briefest of moment to let herknow you are there. Then you engineer a few more memorablemoments during the shaadi for eg. accidentally colliding into her,apologising and helping her pick up any things she has dropped. By the end ofthe night if she has any interest she will approach or ask another friend/relative to approachyou. If she never does woh larki taqdeer mein kabhi thi hi nahi.
That way there is minimial risk of jootis and rejection as it is indirectand you can always think maybe she never interpreted the signs in the wayyou wanted. She may also think the same. Both sides happy. lol seriously a book could be written on this topic as it is so interesting. “DesiShaadi: just a wedding or an avenue to find a long lost soul mate.” but I think a girl should only be approached in such a way if someone is serious about it and genuine..not as a timepass thing in a wedding.