Hmm good Q. I guess for some they would appreciate help, but for others maybe clearing up and cleaning up in the kitchen is their way to relax for a bit??? I can see how this can be a “bonding” situation for women (if the husbands are friends), or for friends to catch up and chat (if they are friends and their husbands are not).
So maybe thats why u feel the way you do…me just an amateur
i think having a salt and pepper shd just be a given on any table.
