Desi Mindset on Shotgun Weddings

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Re: Desi Mindset on Shotgun Weddings

@Sehrysh

Let’s not be naive - premarital sex probably happens more than we’d like to acknowledge. But the actual number of people who are known to have had a child out of wedlock or a 7-month post-wedding baby, I think I’ve only heard of 1 in all these years. This would make me think that either the contraception is pretty good or abortions would be the fall-back.

That’s me speculating, although I did hear a story about a guy in PK who got two girls pregnant and then paid for one girl’s abortion but was dragging his feet about paying for the other girl.

There’s a girl currently being held in jail in Pakistan for drug smuggling who’s from the UK (british born desi).. she’s 6 or 7 months pregnant by her bf.. obviously not going to be a shotgun wedding there but just a quick (extreme) example of someone keeping the child.. She was married before but the kid she is carrying is illegitimate..

A case I know of more personally: One of my dad’s distant cousins got a girl pregnant while he was married to someone else but he ended up taking her as a second wife (this is in a village bk in Pak, the girl’s family basically made him marry her).. She gave birth after they married and are still together..

I know of a couple of desi girls here who have had abortions when they’ve gotten pregnant before marriage.. My sil’s mum is a school health visitor and she was saying she comes across it quite a bit..