desi ladies..

Lifestyle Relationships
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..do u think its ok to befriend your best friend’s husband or do u keep a distance?

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Re: desi ladies..

Distance is good.

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^ but what if ur realllllly..realllly close with that bf? and she trusts u completely and u trust her husband completely?

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Re: desi ladies..

My best friends husband is a really cool guy, I can chat easily with him and he is fun to be around, but we don't talk on our own or spend time together without my friend there, I think that wouldn't be something I would be comfortable. There are boundries - it can be a delicate balance and unfortunately as a woman you have to be careful because there are enough people out there that might misinterpret your friendship.

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Re: desi ladies..

i don't think its a good idea

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Re: desi ladies..

Only real relation are real. Its very clearly out lined in islam too.
Trust me on that all "so called" gets messy at some point.
Distance is good. You can have mutual respect, you can occasionally share ideas.
But no friendship like thingie.

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Re: desi ladies..

wat does friendship stand for - and wat is sharing ideas -

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Re: desi ladies..

distance is gud..

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I mean if a girl is married to you fried for like 4 years. They have invited to you, she has cooked for you.
And some serious goin on in pakistan--you call she picks up; sure you can talk for few mins.

Thats about it!!!

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It all depends on the society that you move in and what are the boundaries that are "acceptable" in there.

And more so, how your friendship is perceived by:

  1. Your friend,
  2. Her Hubby,
  3. Yourself
  4. Others around you whose opinions matter to you

If all is well, and their acceptance levels recognize that there can be "friendship" between you and your best friends hubby then there should not be any issue at all.

But that is my opinion and me being inexperienced in this matter can only give advise based on my thought process minus any real experience!

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Re: desi ladies..

keep a distance

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^ so then doesnt that mean give up ur friend basically..?

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Re: desi ladies..

No

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if the friend is really a close friend , she wud know i dnt like it and if one likes making fuss abt such lil things then i leave such ppl alone:D

Ahhh awkward sochal situwashuns
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Re: desi ladies..

^ good.
You be that way. Clear in the head.

Bhatta mafia in karachi....
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obviously it will affect your friendship....coz if your behaviour changes as compared to what it was...and if those are your close friends...they would notice it.......and most likely ask you for the reason.......and if they can handle that reason........then hats off to them.....but if you place yourself in their shoes...then it will not be the same as it was........

Its only but human.....

So it all depends on a lot of relative things!

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Re: desi ladies..

i think i opened this thread on dream in which i saw my hubby talking to my best friend on msn and i got soo jealous that i committed suicide and stuff..

i would discourage any sort of friendship with your bestfriend's hubster!

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Re: desi ladies..

Best friends are YOUR friends..they have no reason to be sweet talking with your husband...and vice-versa..so yeah...such relationships are best maintained within a respectable distance! :)

Bhatta mafia in karachi....
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Re: desi ladies..

I wouldn't. i'd be friendly and nice, but not in a buddy-buddy type way. that's just not me.

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i agree:k: