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Next time you go out with him and whole tabbar , give him a passionate kiss as a thank you after meal , the tabbar will stop going out and will insist that only you two go out . It will work as a charm , I guarantee it.
or they'd want to follow them around everywhere even more.
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[EMAIL="^@Mirch[/MENTION]"]^[MENTION=58854]Mirch- Actually not a bad idea at all..
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hmmmm, so i guess people are saying its not abnormal either. nothing shocking then.
dono about my friend, but my own husband isnt outgoing, even back in uk, i had to drag him out, his life is sitting in front of tv watchn cricket or playstation ( when he wasnt working) AND FOOD he says in london was easily accessible, going to mcdonalds was time pass, here going to mcdonalds turns into a major meal time event......and oddly enough i feel guilty too here, even though i think ive morphed into feeling obliged to feel this way.
yeap im venting, cos my mate made me realise another thing that annoys me about my life in pakistan. but i doubt i can just leave my otherwise good husband just because wednt go out to eat...right.
hai kitne masley.
your husband is sluggish. you can make him active and outgoing by assigning small tasks/chores on daily basis. lets see if it works for you and your fraand..
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or they'd want to follow them around everywhere even more.
If that happens she can come here and report and I will give her other lethal ideas which involve use of sankhia , cyanide , bori etc.
But let her try some non lethal ways first. :)
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yaar, then il be back here innit.....pir life goes on here this way,
Can't you live away from your inlaws? why go back to Pakistan though?
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ha ha ha. mirch uncle, you made my day.
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your husband is sluggish. you can make him active and outgoing by assigning small tasks/chores on daily basis. lets see if it works for you and your fraand..
ye hhe does do the chore and stuff, but its going out voluntarily thats the issue.lol.
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Can't you live away from your inlaws? why go back to Pakistan though?
because we live here now. god help me.
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^You have nothing in the UK anymore? can't he get a job there, how about yourself? were you independent before you got married?
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god help me.
He helps only those who help themselves.
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^You have nothing in the UK anymore? can't he get a job there, how about yourself? were you independent before you got married?
Not Applicable to typical desi women.
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Hmm am i in the minority here? My inlaws stayed with us for almost a year last year and we didnt go out to eat even once mainly because we felt bad going without them. Not even on our anniversary because i thought it would be rude to leave them at home. We went with them once for breakfast but they were extremely uncomfortable and would have rather stayed home. They arent used to eating out. My husband has taken me out in Pakistan but usually its because we are meeting his friends for dinner or taking someone else out for dinner. He is the same with my parents too, when we go visit, he wants the whole family to go even though my mom doesnt like going. Its not about desiness, just being a bit considerate. Doesnt mean we dont spend time together, we go for coffee alone or just on a walk, movies etc while inlaws watch our daughter. BUt eating out seems different for some reason. Since my inlaws will be mostly staying with us from now on, things might change eventually.
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^Yeah, it's very different when you see no hope for a change ever than putting up with something for a year or two.
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I don't think this is a "Typical Desi trait" This is pretty messed up. Anyways, MIL and SIL ko khud sharam a jani chahiye...
I don't usually agree with much of what you say, but I definitely agree with you here.
The in-law's should feel awkward tagging along with their son and his wife. That sounds pretty crazy to me, I would be very uncomfortable tagging along to dinner with any couple; be it my family or not.
Although, when there are kids in the picture they act as a distraction; so maybe that is the reason why the in-law's don't feel uncomfortable?
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I don't think this is a "Typical Desi trait" This is pretty messed up. Anyways, MIL and SIL ko khud sharam a jani chahiye...
sahih... magar afsoos hamaray haaN amoonan har baat *barooN ka 'Haq' aur bachoon ka 'farz' per khatem *ho jaati hai
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seems more like a MIL trait than a husband trait.
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I really worry about your families if these is considered the norm.
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when i was living with my in laws. my SIL would go with us for dinner, movie and shopping.. i would really hate it because sometimes i would like to spend time alone with husband..i wouldnt mind if it was once in a while but then she would go with us anywhere we would go
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A friend of mine,who lives with her inlaws, says her husband doesnt take her to eat out anywhere, because he says ajeeeb lagta hai akele jana, i know him, he seems a nice enough, loyal enough husband, but i find this odd. Apparently he feels like mum dad fmaily should go too, feels guilty ot whatever. They do go shopping, or whatever together and if they get a bite to eat on the way its different, but making a plan to go and eat one day, seems to be a problem for him.
is this normal behaviour for men living with their parents?
I live with mine too, and my husband also feels odd just taking me out, even though im his wife and he owes me this no?
Or am i wrong. Both husbands are desis. is this a desi thing then.
ANyway, back to problem, SHE now wants to live seperatly becauses she sick of it not being able to go out with husband on her own, apart from that, she has no complaints.
Living with in laws is a desi thing.
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well we dont go for movies here, because well theres no cinema in peshawar lol, and like i said my husband isnt the outgoing type anyway, even in london i dragged him to the cinema.....