… is it a difficult task?
do you know any females who have been married to guys back home and moved there? how did they handle it? how does one know they’ll be able to move back without too many hiccups?
Well I'm a desi guy who went on a rather long 'vacation' to Pakistan that some how lasted 8yrs.
My dad actually had nerve to say
'oh we are only going for a few months if you don't like it we'll go back '
yeah, right! We had sold the house packed up everything and had it shipped overseas etc..
I dunno how things are now.. but life is really restricted in Pakistan and even more so as a woman. Even if your husband to be is all open minded chances are some family member and society itself is gonna place alot of restrictions on you.
Of course maybe you'll get lucky, be able to do whatever you want ..esp if you like having servants do all the cooking and cleaning.. living there can make you really lazy and with all that free time if you don't put it to good use you may actually end up getting really bored.
It really depends what you want to do with your life. but you do gotta seriously consider all this before deciding to marry a guy and settling in Pakistan. That's two major life changes in one..
Even with all the 'freedoms' as a guy I did not really enjoy living there much.. there were lots of good times for sure but a whole lotta BS I had to put up with too..
depends on person to person, i know some ppl who moved to pak and live happily and others who came back in 6 months or so. i dont know if i'll be able to live in pak. life sure is different back home though.
well
i think it all depends on ur personality and how 'adaptable' u r honestly
adaptability to all situations is a good thing
ive been told im very adaptable... a wierd analysis i know... but thats the main reason why my aunt is even finding a guy for me in pak... for my sister shes like a big No..
but yeah, its a very personal thing... some people can do it.. and some people cant... i dont know if i'd be able to, but i wouldnt mind trying.... i honestly find so much peace when i go back there...
Not for the purpose of getting married, but just moving back for other purposes--->...its not that easy.
True, it depends on each person whether he/she adjusts or does not... but u'll miss living abroad for sure. Cultural restrictions along with trying to adapt to the lifestyle here (extended families, freinds, people in everyday life, etc) might be a bit hectic at first.
And then to top it, the guy himself! If u do get hooked or something, try to meet him or talk to him beforehand to atleast get an idea about his outlooks.
Good Luck
it depends how open-minded your family are,
but if ure an adaptable type it shouldnt really be a problem, so long as u have plenty of things to do u enjoy and u have plenty of friends over there :k:
how adaptable you are
plus
teh difference bwtweeen your lifestyle here and the lifestyle that you will have there.
these factors will be the most critical
I lived in Pakistan for 2 years after I got married and I loved it. No trouble at all. I would love to go and live there for good.
Sadzzz, Sorry for derailing your thread. Just wanted to say - 
i’ve missed you. Where have you been? Kaisi ho?
hey all! thanx for the responses.... i feel a lot more at ease knowing that its not such a bad thing... i thought maybe i just had paki fever or something...
there wasnt much of a lifestyle change when i went back... apart from not being able to drive myself around... thats i think the main reason why im looking into it..
hey nandula... where bouts in pak were u living?? if i ever go back.. it'll prob be in lahore or gujranwala...
Nadia! ive missed you too... so sorry i havent been much of a talker on this for awhile... how have u been?!
I live in Islamabad, Gujarkhan. Avillage near there
oh kewl... sounds good :) islamabad is a lovely place too... i used to live near there as a kid..
I just cant wait to go back.
me too :)
where u raised in pak or overseas?
I was born in Pak but came to UK when I was 1 and grew up in UK. And you?
Definitely depends on how adaptable you are!
Secondly it also depends that in which city of Pak you're going to stay...because in small cities life wil be even more restricted as compared to karachi and lahore u know...i mean the whole environment is totally different from small ones.
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im a bit all over the place.. i was born in US.. but moved to pak when i was like 3 months.. lived there till i was 6, and have been living in OZ for about 17.5 years..
hey mindless... yeah i totally get what ur saying about the city factor... hmm
So wha time is it down there now?It s nearly 11pm here.
so i'm off to get ready for bed.
its 10am on a wednesday :)