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a nice condo, newest car would work..
well jokes apart, i would like to give mehr to wife on wedding day, insh'allah and do not want any dowry..
My friend was telling me that his in-laws paid 2 months of home mortgage and all the bills and stuff...seems pretty decent in-laws.
ps: btw, a question just popped up in my head, what if the guy is marrying someone in Pakistan?.. is there any way to ship bedroom set, cars, machineries etc over the plane?..lol
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its very easy to ship your entire kabarkhana...but not by plane. You can rent a container and ship the whole thing by a sea/merchant navy ship.
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My mom had a very nice jahez, she says her dishes were hte most expensive ones (3000 Rs at the time), lots of nice furniture etc....what happened? my dads family ruined all of them/threw it out/etc while she was at her mom's house for a wedding.... plus when she moved to USA, she couldn't take her jahez, so by that time, she had it put away in my nani's house. A few years ago, we started using those dishes, about 30 years after she received them. So my point is, all this jahez stuff is pretty useless crap b/c someone will end up ruining it!
My mom had a very nice jahez, she says her dishes were hte most expensive ones (3000 Rs at the time), lots of nice furniture etc....what happened? my dads family ruined all of them/threw it out/etc while she was at her mom's house for a wedding.... plus when she moved to USA, she couldn't take her jahez, so by that time, she had it put away in my nani's house. A few years ago, we started using those dishes, about 30 years after she received them. So my point is, all this jahez stuff is pretty useless crap b/c someone will end up ruining it!
You are right indeed. A lot of my family members give their daughter dowry, but those daughters live abroad, and goes to pak maybe every 4t-5th yr and by the time they have their own house, they wanna buy new modern stuff, so really its a big waste imo .. God knows when Pakistanis will get a bit more sensible hayee .. :p
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^ another really pathetic and impractical thing i see is that the brides to be get like 50-100 clothes..all stitched. as if they will never gain or lose weight after the shadi...JUST to show off to everyone....
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lolz thts true .. wht in earth are they gonna do with 100 suits anywayz ?!?! I wonder if its just a race like "lets see who spends the most" or if they truly believe they need all tht ..
Maybe they are buying suits for the rest of the life :p
My older sister married an arab, most arabs dont this dowry thing, it kinda works the other way round, the guys side usually gives the dowry.
Hmmm I think there were exchange of gifts...hmmm I dont really know....maybe I should pay more attention!
Thats true .. Arab people are more considered on the Mehr, whereas I've seen some Pakis neglect it, how come?
lolz thts true .. wht in earth are they gonna do with 100 suits anywayz ?!?! I wonder if its just a race like "lets see who spends the most" or if they truly believe they need all tht ..
Maybe they are buying suits for the rest of the life :p
and then ten years later, they're wearing something totally hideous and gross-looking...just b/c it was part of their jahez.
sadly true. when we moved to America, all my Mom's utensils, sarris and furniture that my Father and her parents gifted her, was thrown, ruined, stolen or given away.
lesson learnt: donte ever let anyone else 'take care' of your belingings in your absence.
because its not the value of the things in price that hurts, when things are lost, its teh emotional connection with these things that elders or loved ones gav them to you and you lost them to others' carelessness or greed.
thus, it is better for parents of boys and girls to buy a piece of land, for the new couple to build a house on.
best,
Dushwari
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