i really think im going into depression, should i pick up new activites to keep me busy, what do u guys do? i really dont want to go on any medication..that is my last last resort
How about seeing a family psychiatrist or your school might be able to provide you with some counseling....take use of the services
i dun know much about this though but i do know is do not and i mean do not shut yourself away from the world ... keep yourself in contact with your friends/family and do approach them when you need someone to talk etc to ... don't keep it all with yourself ... dun know if it is of any help ..
change in environment is always good... and differnt activities too. But i think it depends on the indivudual. Sometimes, these are just ways to forget whats really happening, its mroe lile blocknig things out..
yeah medicine should be the last resort. Maybe, try writing.. or u could always join some sort of fitness thing
Don't stay alone. Make sure you hang out with positive people who don't dump their problems on you.
And go for a jog/walk everyday. It really helps.
You need to be around people, and especially the ones that matter to you most. If not parents then friends. And if you still feel depressed, it won't be a surprise. You've been through, rather going through a lot.
Try to look at the positive things in life. If you feel sad, it's ok to cry. Always helps me feel better after. Communication is key, you need to talk about your emotions, and we're always here to listen.
Aisha... a friend of mine is going thru major depression too. He sought help from a shrink and is on medication... but i think thats the last resort..
I find praying is the best cure.. sounds daggy, but i been praying heaps for this guy and i think its worked, Alhamdulillah.
Sometimes shrinks arent the best people, good friends and family can work wonders though
hayaa your signature is depressing.
i realize that but im having a hard time communicating, like talking to people..im just not the same person i used to be. I dont want to see anyone or even talk on the phone
As others have said, isolating yourself is the last thing you should do. It is important for you to have some sort of outlet for what you are going through. Sometimes, it is easier to just shut yourself off from the world and keep everything inside … but I truly believe that will only damage yourself in the long run. If not talking to somebody, then maybe you should try writing whatever you are going through down in a diary/journal.
You should try and surround yourself with positive people who will not bring you down even more. As for activities, there are a lot of things you can do … but what it really comes down to is what will give you some comfort at the end of the day.
Aishaa I know how u're feeling right now and I know it's very hard but you have to come out of your shell. You just have to. You're strong enough to take that one step. Please you have to start seeing people even if you don't feel like it. It won't be easy and you might even feel worse after seeing your friends but everything takes time. Make sure you're eating and sleeping properly. That's very very important. Keeping a diary/journal helps too.
hmm u remind me of my sister. She's like you... over the weekend she was balling her eyes out and refused to talk to anyone. She blocks people out all the time and tries dealing with the anger herself..
i had to force her to talk to her friends and got her outta the house, i think that really helps. Try to talk to people.. i mean once u start, it'll all come out
People have said most of it. But the power of just getting it all out is understated.
The longer you keep it inside the longer it festers and it really does eat you up on the inside.
Write it all out in a paper/dairy … put out all the feeling in it .. just write it all out .. you can’t shut it in yourself … it won’t help … start it from there and slowly to talking on the phone then to talking with one … you have already realize you are suffering from it which is the first step already… getting over depression takes time … take things slowly …
Give yourself time aishaa, you obviously recognize that you're behaving unlike your usual self and if you are aware of the problem, then it's a good sign. We all need time to ourselves after we've been through something tragic before we let anyone inside our bubble. It's how we deal with shock, you build a protective wall around yourself, afraid because you are hurting.
And we all deal differently with things. If you find yourself behaving different than everyone else who is sad and hurting, it doesn't mean you're not. You are coping with it in your own way. Let it happen, don't push it away. I wish I could say something and make you feel better. But I am sure you're sick and tired of listening to the same old cliched sympathies and concerns but it doesn't do much for one. It's all up to us to get through whatever it is that's befallen us and move forward with life. We don't really have any other choice.
hum sa, hugs
You first step is to recognize the fact that you have depression when it hits. Its good that you have recognized it. There are different ways to cope with it..ranging from psychotherapy to medicine. I’m not a big advocate of antidepressants but sometimes they are necessary if symptoms are severe. There is nothing wrong with taking medicine if it helps..I’m not a doc but since everybody around me is a patient :-p I know what it is like. I read somewhere that depression is actually an imbalance of chemicals in our brain and anti-depressants help bring this balance back..no harm in taking medicine if nothing else helps.
Ideally, you want to deal with it on your own…however, unfortunately not everyone is gifted enough to do that… Guppies have suggested some methods to deal with it….writing, talking, sharing etc all are good ideas…pick the one that you are comfortable with.
One word of caution here…don’t hope that you will snap out of it. It will take time and rest assured that as long as you are thinking positive… you are on the right track.
Pray and read surahs.
I may sound like a mullah but it helps - it did for me.
yep as someone said above writing in a diary is good idea , try to share all of ur thoughts wid ur diary ... keep urself busy , try to remember good days .. pray, go out on walks ,hope u ll feel better*hugs*
i've read about depression, i wouldn't say this if i didn't think i had it..of course i would never admit it in real life to anyone..except one or two people, but i posted this up here to see how u people deal with it. I was hoping, still am, that this will only last a few weeks, or months. I really dont want to see a psychiatrist, I dont have any mental problems..lol...I'll try opening up more, though i dont know if i can do that, maybe write my thoughts down, but yeh..Thanks everyone.
aisha
as you know grief is different from depression. When i look at what I am facing right nwo I break it out into 3 separate things
1) grief at my loss
2) reliving the tragic days
3) knowing that a future I had in my mind is no longer there
Grief is natural, its sadness and pain that cuts through the soul, but as time passes by you are better equipped to handle it, the pain does not go away, one is just stronger and more in control, does not mean that there will not be times where some minor reminder may just break through all your defenses.
reliving the tragedy- Its like post traumatic stress disorder, reliving it in your mind. In my case as I have noted..remembering how they passed away in my arms and how I had to carry their little bodies for burial
mourning a future that is no more- dont know, it was an abstraction, anything on a daily basis could change what we see as a future we have in our mind.
I have started focusing on the grief part, trying to not relive the tragedy in my mind over and over, and trying to not think about what could have been. This way I am focusing on what is the reality and what I need to do to mourn, whether it is writing here, or in a journal or praying, or something else.
Now as far as depression goes, thats where people need help, can one get out of depression on one's own without the help of outside counselling or medication sure. That would depend on the severity of depression as well as your ability to tackle it on your own. I would suggest that you talk to someone experienced in this area to make an assessment.
Best to you, I know you are going through a tough time, You are in my prayers.