Fungi and Fraudia, you guys will make a great couple. No, wait, I take that back. You guys MAKE a great couple.
It is very tempting to think that the potential emotional separation that coudl be caused by the absence of a parent(s) is 'the' reason for increased stress and depression levels among children, since an increase in the number of women in the workforce gives us "the perfect correlation." But we also need to realize that regardless of our upbringing, we all have a great potential of becoming neurotic given we are faced with sufficient conflict to cause a mental disturbance, and perhaps that's what the children are being made to deal with nowadays. It is widely argued that society in general, and media in particular, are exposing children to too much, too soon. And perhaps, it is not the absence of a parent at home, but the increased level of conflicts a child is faced with, through increased exposure, that is responsible for an increase in depression among young children. Having pimples is no longer the sole criterion for making you a loser as you also need to wear Abercrombie & Fitch and not Wal-Mart, have a girlfriend (boyfriend), and lose your virginity by a certain time. Parents can certainly help a child handle this pressure of peer acceptance (or a lack thereof), but in my view, it'd be wrong to attribute the resulting depression to his mommy beign at work.
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*Originally posted by Roman: *
Fungi and Fraudia, you guys will make a great couple. No, wait, I take that back. You guys MAKE a great couple.
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Roman, can WE rent your overies to develop our combined sperm?
^ Right on..my bald-ish friend. It is far better to have the ability to communicate with your parents for 2 hrs a day than not being able to commuicate with your parents for 24 hrs a day.
depression is caused by various reasons, it can be heridity, influence of external environment (media etc, as mentioned above) and also due to hormonal imbalances in teenagers, especially during puberty. studies have shown that the more parents interact with their kids, starting from 1 day old babies (hugging them, talking to them) to teens, the more they turn out to be secure and confident young adults. The more parents are involved with their kids, the more secure they are.
whatever…how many of you have gone through it? you guys don’t know anything about depression…
all the research and everything is great and all…but if you’ve gone through it…
brought back for sarah maniac and madhanee to discuss child care issues and options pros and cons
I dunno about depression but I've babysitted a handful of times and I've also been around people who have worked at daycares or have them at home and also been with kids who go to daycares. The kids who went to the daycare had bums full of rashes, this one year old girl screamed when she pooed and me and my aunt were baby sitting her and my aunt changed her diaper, the rashes were horrible. Sure you guys will say the daycare she went to must have been crappy but nothing changes the fact that a mother does everything for her child with love, and im not talking about crappy mothers. Something done with love is a million times better than something done cuz some shrink wrote a how-to book and you follow it to the letter.
Actually you know what, all of this is a bunch of generalization, every mother is different and i dont really care about the kids of other mothers but i think the best situation is when a mother has read up on how to take care of kids and she doesn't just take care of the kid, she provides stimulation like taking him outside and spending time showing him stuff. its not enough to just change diapers and feed. lekin daycares are a waste of money when the care you can provide yourself is a million times better. A woman can put her education to good use by passing it on to her kids, not having someone else pass it on. And careers are more important than takinf care of your kids yourself? well then you shouldnt have kids.
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**Sure you guys will say the daycare she went to must have been crappy but nothing changes the fact that a mother does everything for her child with love, and im not talking about crappy mothers.*
there are good day care centers,a nd there are bad ones, there are good mothers and there are bad ones.
** Something done with love is a million times better than something done cuz some shrink wrote a how-to book and you follow it to the letter.**
My sister's father in law was one of 11 kids, 8 of them died. How..the mother caring for them stopped giving them water when they had diarrhea..8 of them perished due to that. That was done with love too.
Love may be all well and good, but is not the only thing that is needed.
*i think the best situation is when a mother has read up on how to take care of kids and she doesn't just take care of the kid, she provides stimulation like taking him outside and spending time showing him stuff. its not enough to just change diapers and feed. *
Dont ask..but observe, How many women..especially desi women do all that you have mentioned. observe and you will see the answer.
*And careers are more important than takinf care of your kids yourself? well then you shouldnt have kids. *
what careers mean can be important, what if you are a doctor or a teacher. other people depend on you too.
also just because one wants to, or has to follow the career, does not mean that they consider it more important than taking care of their kids.
but as a part of overall family, and sometimes the need is there.
I suppose if there was some prigram offering parents paid time off to take care of the kids, everyone would jump on it.